Terrible Date!

[WTAFF]

I'm just in from a date with my boyfriend. We've been trying to work on our relationship after recently getting back together. One of the things that is important to me is that he makes more of an effort to come and see me, rather the me going to see him (we live 30 minutes apart).

He came through to my town after work and we went out for a drink. The pub we had picked only had a couple of beers on but is the best of a bad bunch in my locality. He immediately took against the place and then went into a bit of a huff and said he was hungry and wanted some chips. I explained that all the chip shops shut at 7pm (tourist town) but the pub did food or there's a McDonalds just down the road.

Neither of my options were suitable apparently. Seriously, for the next 45 minutes he didn't shut up about these BASTARD chips. So I've just told him to go home, as I can't even deal with his nonsense. I will be having words when I trust myself to be able to speak calmly about this wth him.

I'm sorry, I just needed to vent. Does anyone have any date horror stories that might make me feel better?

Do remember (and never forget) WTAFF that you really don't need to "talk" or argue about this with him. This is a mistake I used to make until I realised with certain people it is just a pointless exercise (though well intended on your part) which gives him a platform to rant and be horrible and fuck that - you really don't need to subject yourself to that.

You can just text him "I'm out" and walk away and never look back. You know a "talk" isn't going to get you anywhere with a guy like this.

What on earth are you getting out of this relationship? Find yourself someone better. It won't be difficult.

Update: I went to his house to have a chat about things and he was showing me a
Photo on his tablet and there was a photo of another woman on there.

I asked him who it was and he said it was someone he briefly went out with several years ago. I asked him why her photo was saved onto the iPad a few months ago and he couldn't really answer with anything other than he came across the photo on the Internet and thought it was a good photo and it didn't mean anything because he had lots of photos of everyone (but none on his iPad). The woman is fully clothed but this really bothered me, as he would have had to search this photo out then make the decision to save it to his camera roll. I don't understand why he would do this.

He couldn't remember how he came across the photo, as they aren't Facebook friends.

I walked out at that point telling him we were over. However I'm worried that I've over-reacted. Can someone give me a reality check please and a hand hold?

Sorry if this is rambly. I've just taken an anti anxiety pill but it hasn't kicked in yet.

Can someone give me a reality check please and a hand hold?
Well I can do the reality check.....

Best case scenario is he's just not over her and can't focus on your relationship whit him, worst case scenario he's been cheating.

Given his childish behaviour previously you're 100% right to walk away, this won't work out, sorry.

He is not nice to you.

I don't think you want him to be your boyfriend.

I don't think you are overreacting.

He reckons that he only went out with her for a week. That makes it worse in my opinion.

If he had a lot of shared history with this woman and the photo reflected something which held some significance I could understand it. But to save an apparently random photo of someone he hardly knows is just weird and disrespectful to me.

I feel really upset. Thanks for the support.m

Im sure he did it to make you jealous. He's a loser! Move on.

Let go of the photo thing - the problem is that he is NOT making you happy. Walk away.

If they're not friends on Facebook, it sounds like she's sentit from Whatsapp where it automatically downloads to your camera roll, which suggests a few months ago they were still talking.

I managed to get a photo of the pic on the iPad.

To complicate matters further - we work together in the same office. Would it be really childish of me to print out this photo and stick it on the wall beside my desk?!

Your co-workers would think you were weird.

I know. I'm not really serious. I just like the idea of watching him squirm.

In reality, I will just maintain a dignified silence.

What do you do on dates in his locality?

We used to either go to the cinema, for drinks or meals. Just standard stuff really.