Littlefrogletx I am so sorry. He sounds an abusive, selfish shit. Of course he should not see your daughter on her birthday, what a shit way to spend a birthday, a late tea with an abusive dad!
Please keep copies of all texts/emails etc.
"But he swears blind he is not abusive." Well, you know differently so you need to get advice on what to do. Some good advice above from posters.
Please speak to Women's Aid.
www.womensaid.org.uk/
0808 2000 247
My friend has just left her abusive husband and women's aid were really helpful. Her husband can only see the kids when someone else is present to supervise him.
I know it is tough but please put things in place for him not to be able to get access to the kids if it is not safe.
Please, when you can afford to do it. can you get the kids numbers changed, or block his phone. Contact should go through another person or possibly email, not voice messages. That way you have a record of any abusive emails and maybe easier to read an email then listen to the creep's voice.
Explain to the kids you have their best interests at heart and you will sort this all out. Then have faith you will be able to do this.
"The school was involved, they relayed to SS they had no concerns, the child protection officer called me in and spoke to me and said the same.
He told me that they were all lying and it was all part of some covert investigation.
This was all before I blocked him on every avenue other than a separate email address.
He was ringing my neighbours, my parents hiding in the garden, getting his friend to follow me.
I know he is full of shit but he still scares the life out of me.
8 months on I have nightmares, panic attacks and constant intrusive thoughts about him."
I am so sorry this is all shit. I am just wondering if this comes under Coercive Control? I am also wondering if you can get evidence together. Maybe if you spot him hiding in the garden, take a photo of him?
PLEASE first of all speak to Women's aid and see what they recommend.