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How long did you wait before TTC after getting married?

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newlynesting · 09/02/2017 02:38

I got married just under 6 months ago. The plan was to wait for a while before ttc (at least a year) because it's good to have some time where it's just the two of you together. It has only been 6 months but I am already feeling a very strong desire to start ttc. I'm not even pregnant but I already feel like I'm nesting. I've been looking at baby related items like prams, cots and clothes. DH and me have talked about potential names for a boy or a girl. It would be the first baby for both of us. I'm wondering how long other people waited before ttc'ing? If you both feel ready for kids is there any reason to wait before trying?

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harrietm87 · 09/02/2017 19:12

Just found out I'm pregnant on our first month trying, 4 months after our wedding. All being well, baby due a month after our first anniversary. We are 30 and were together 6.5 years before we got married. Age and length of time together are more important factors than proximity to wedding IMO.

JellyWitch · 09/02/2017 19:15

About 5 years before and a week after!

EssentialHummus · 09/02/2017 19:18

7 months. There's no right time really. If you both feel it's something you want to do, do it.

OhTheRoses · 09/02/2017 19:24

Traditional here.
Engaged after 18 months
Married six months after engagement announced
TTC after a year; ds1 2.5 years and two miscarriages later.
..........he's 22!

MatildaTheCat · 09/02/2017 19:25

Minus four months. In which I mean, we got married due to my pregnancy although I'm sure we would have done so in due course as we'd been together 3 plus years.

I did always rather regret not having the chance for a period of married life without pregnancy and DC. It's a very long time before you are just a couple again. But every single persons situation is unique and depends on age, finances, housing, careers and attitudes. Only you know that.

Good luck.

CMOTDibbler · 09/02/2017 19:27

9 years

BettyOBarley · 09/02/2017 19:28

We started trying on honeymoon but it took 18 months to conceive the first time.

SallyGinnamon · 09/02/2017 19:32

Straight away!

Count2three · 09/02/2017 19:33

A day. Was pregnant when we returned from honeymoon.

NennyNooNoo · 09/02/2017 19:38

About 4 years. Long enough that people had stopped asking. We had been together though for over 10 years by the time we started trying.

whateverandever · 09/02/2017 19:39

About 4.5 years. There's no right or wrong time though, so many factors are more relevant than just the date of marriage.

JontyDoggle37 · 09/02/2017 19:41

About ten hours! DS was born 9 months to the day later 😁

showmeislands · 09/02/2017 19:45

Was ready to try for a baby after 6 years of marriage and 9 years together. Before that I was more concerned with finishing uni, establishing my career, going on great holidays and enjoying going out etc. Totally ready for our baby now (due imminently) but loved having all that time just the two of us.

Vanillaradio · 09/02/2017 19:47

3 1/2 years. Wanted to buy house first and then took a year to stabilise my long term medical condition.

AllTheLight · 09/02/2017 19:50

We waited a year. Go for it OP!

elQuintoConyo · 09/02/2017 19:58

Together 12 years before getting married, started ttc about 8 months later. We were 36 and 38.

DarklyDreamingDexter · 09/02/2017 20:07

If that's what you both want, are ready for it and can afford it, why wait? It may take longer than you think or happen straight away. Assuming you've been a couple for some time, you've already had time being just the two of you. If you're drooling over baby clothes and picking out names it sounds as if you're ready!

Crumbs1 · 09/02/2017 20:12

Second day of marriage. I remember doing a handstand to encourage conception. Started vomiting two weeks later.

BeyondUnderthinking · 09/02/2017 20:15

I was four months pregnant at my wedding

ToriaPumpkin · 09/02/2017 21:16

Five years. But we were 20 and 21 when we got married and we wanted to wait until we had graduated, both had jobs and had somewhere to live. We started TTC a few months after buying our house and I got pregnant 7 months after that. I wanted to start earlier, but it wasn't financially viable and DH was far more sensible than me!

Montezumasrevenge · 09/02/2017 21:19

We started trying 2 years prior to the wedding, we gave up 5 years after the wedding to adopt. Get at it op, and don't spare the horses

RedGrapeCornSnake · 09/02/2017 21:55

DC1 was a honeymoon accident. Celebrated our first wedding anniversary with an 8 week old!

MrsNuckyThompson · 09/02/2017 22:43

I got up duffed about 3 days later. Deliberately! We'd been together for 6 years and had bought our house so it seemed like the right time.

WombOfOnesOwn · 09/02/2017 23:06

We started TTC when we got engaged because we anticipated needing fertility help (previous miscarriages with exH) and wanted to get IVF soon after the wedding, but you have to TTC for a year first with your current partner ... which is how I ended up a 24 week pregnant bride. Whoops! Wouldn't trade my DS for the world, though.

DramaAlpaca · 09/02/2017 23:09

I think we'd been married about two years.

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