Hi Namechanged as was on here a lot a few years ago with my cheating ex pissing of with OW and treating me like shit for months afterwards!
Ive been seeing a guy for three years he is quite immature relationship wise, but very sweet, funny, kind and loving- he helped me rebuild my confidence after my ex -I wasn't looking for anything too involved but over time he has become part of my life, he is mostly reliable and makes me feel special and wanted.
However he lies, he has lied in the past about going out with friends he knows I'm not a fan of because he normally ends up in some sort of drama with them and I find out - once he swore he was at home but I had a feeling and drove to his place to find his car gone, he was in the pub with said friends.
He has drunk drove on one occasion that I know of and only told me about it when he had to because he hit a roundabout and damaged his front teeth- he called his mum when the accident happened- I found out the morning after.
He is very close to his mother and I think she covers for him - anyway i thought we worked through these issues and were in a good place now.
He lives alone, we were hoping to move in together at my place as soon as he gets a job near me- so I'm texting him this evening and he tells me he is at his mums I thought he was just visiting and asked when he was leaving he wouldn't answer and I thought this was strange so I pushed and pushed and he admitted that he had been given notice on his flat three months ago - he was hoping to find a job near me by now but because he hasn't he had moved back in with his mum last week!
I can't believe the lying -three months he has had to tell me - he didn't say anything and I can't believe he would do all that without telling me.
Also he knows he could have moved in here ( he would have had to give up his job and got some temp work here for a bit) but he chose to move in with his mum instead.
I was fucked over by my ex which really floored me and I thought he was different - it still amazes me how much someone can lie first my ex and now him.
As I said in other ways he is very sweet and kind and treats me very well- but the lying is too much - he is weak I think and doesn't want to face my questioning/ upset if I find out the truth about bad choices he has made/ situations he finds himself in.
What do I do? Can he change? He really helped me after my ex and I do believe he is sorry when he tells me the truth eventually - I just wish he has the guts to tell the truth in the first place!