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Why are men such morons ?!

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crazycatlady25 · 05/02/2017 14:46

Just posting so I can vent.

Background is as follows.... I was seeing a guy for a couple of months before Christmas, I liked him, he was good at staying in touch messaging daily etc, didn't sleep together although sometimes came close.
Said guy was terrible at arranging to meet up, he was always busy with friends, on some occasions he said he would pop by & visit if he wasn't out too late with friends, which resulted in me getting ready etc & making myself look nice, for him to message & say that he was going to be with friends later than he thought. ' Booty call' did spring to mind frequently but I guess my judgement was clouded due to the fact of how much effort he was making to stay in touch.
He never arranged to for us to actually go anywhere, dates were at my house, I used to cook & we would watch tv and cuddle etc. He never tried to instigate sexy time, that was all my doing! Hence me thinking I couldnt be a ' Booty call ' due to his actions of not actually trying for any ' Booty'
Anyway I got tired of the ' I will pop round later if I'm free ' scenarios, on several occasions I had made the effort to look nice etc for him to message that he was out with friends later than he expected, it dawned on me that this guy isn't really interested, if he was he would make time to see me & not just be ' popping by later if he was free'
After about 2 months of this I lost interest and it fizzled out mutually.

Fast forward to now, I have had my boobs done ( breast implants) nothing ridiculous, they are very natural looking & I absolutely love them ( I was very small chested previously ) Anyhow this guy has clocked on that I've had this done ( friends writing complimentary stuff on Facebook ) which I'm fine with as the new boobies are noticeable anyway. He's now back in touch,hes messaged saying hoped my surgery went well etc, and more messages re general chit chat. I replied standard polite obligatory replies, I haven't really engaged in anyway to give him the impression that I'm
Interested again. He is still messaging! Cringey super nice messages, when I haven't replied to his last few messages! Now this is the guy that was always too busy to see me, I felt like he stood me up on several occasions re the ' I may come see you later ' scenario.
He had his chance & he blew it! I just wish I had the guts to tell him to piss off & that I wasn't born yesterday & no you won't get to see my new boobs!

I'm just shocked at how ironically he's all of a sudden interested again. Need to think of a dignified response to tell him to piss off as his super nice caring messages that he keeps sending that I'm not responding to are actually now getting on my tits ( now that I have some tits lol )
Got to laugh really... what a moron ?!

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YouHadMeAtCake · 05/02/2017 23:24

Well OP, aren't you a little charmer. Glance posted on your thread as is the very purpose of MN. You made it her business and got her opinion and everybody else's by posting your situation in the first place. She wasn't poking her nose in at all.

As for telling her to find something more productive to do on a Sunday, that's rich coming from someone who practically wrote an essay on a man who was just not interested until she had a boob job. Perhaps you are the one who should be more productive.