Should I just delete and move on?

[FoxAndTheBound]

Started talking to someone on a gay OLD site.

We talked alot through messages moved to whatsapp. She seems keen. Very complimentary. Keeps saying she likes me.

We planned to meet Friday night. Wednesday she asked if we could swap to Saturday. Thursday asked if we could go back to Friday.

Friday comes. It's 5pm and I'm getting ready. We were meeting for an hour. I had somewhere to be. She says she's been kept late at work. Can't possibly meet me at the time we arranged and as I have to leave can we rearrange?

I say last night but she was busy.
She suggests lunch Sunday.

All this time we've been talking still. She sent me photos of her night out last night.
But now it's almost midday and I've not had a message about today :/

We never arranged a time.

Shall I just delete and move on.

We get along talking and she keeps saying she wants to meet me but ...?

Well done, Fox.

Have you had a reply?

sweets

The person in question rearranged 3 times in 4-5 days and seems unable to commit to a meeting. It's not that hard to make an arrangement and stick to it.

Friday would be irritating, but I have a job like that so can sympathise. I don't know everyone's different.
It's hard when you're trying to protect yourself from entering back into previously unhealthy dynamics

she went from Friday to Saturday to Friday again. Then cancelled Friday. Told me she had (in the space of time) made arrangements for Saturday so couldn't do that. Made plans for lunch Sunday. Didn't contact me till midday knowing I had to be home by 4 then disappeared for 30 mins after me asking if she wanted to meet for a drink still.

Which one of the messages is from you?

I think both the messages are from the other person

Both from her in reply to me saying I enjoyed speaking to her but I don't think it would work out taking it any further.

I wouldn't even respond again now and get into a whole "thing".

Agree with like I don't think there is any point in discussing it further now

I just said we have very different schedules and availability and I can't see it being easy for us to meet regularly if we can't even sort out an hours coffee.

I don't think "disappeared for 30 minutes" and along the same vein, not responding for 20 is a crime. Not everyone is glued to their phone, and having a shower, washing up, taking a phone call or generally having a life is disappearing?

lastnicknamefree it's not a crime, but it's not showing much enthusiasm or interest either, given the context and previous let downs. She's not making enough effort.

it's not showing much enthusiasm or interest
In the context of online dating and not having actually met yet I think it's fine. But if it's not fine for OP then she's right to opt out now. Possibly it's a sign that their expectations for levels of contact etc aren't ever going to match up.

Lastnick. The point was it was 1pm. I told her if we meet I have to be home by 4pm. It's a 30 minute commute each way and rather than say yes or no she told me she was in bed and left me wondering if I should make my way to the train station or not!

You don't need a flake in your life do you? Especially from day one x

Telling you she was in bed was blatantly code for 'I'm not going to be ready to meet you'

You made the right call.

OP I think you listened to yourself and did what you needed to do to look after yourself. You did the right thing for you.

If you have plans to meet someone for lunch on Sunday, you don't wait til after 12pm to start thinking about a time, and then say you are still in bed.

Not if you actually want to meet them.