So I've been online dating on/off for the past few years. Been on 10 dates, from both Tinder and POF. Of these, 6 were not interested in a second date- a couple let me know directly but most just didn't get back in touch after the first. Of the remaining 4, I turned down 2 (one when ds was tiny and I didn't feel ready to take things further, one because he showed a disrespectful level of flakiness), had one evolve into a 14 month relationship, and one casual sex set up that suited at the time.
So that gives me a rejection rate of 60%, which i have the unpleasant feeling is high/crap for a woman, but have no point of reference to compare. A quick google reminds me that many people have a 'kid in a sweet shop' approach to OLD, making rejection par for the course. However, other sources say that men are waaaaaaay less picky than woman, and will normally accept a 2nd date with anyone who meets a basic thresh-hold of attractiveness/politeness/sanity. A quick scroll through threads here does seem to confirm this- woman doing more rejecting than men (If only at the early stages) and having plenty of offers for 2nd/3rd dates. That said 'we didn't meet again as there was no chemistry' could well be omitting the fact it was him who never got in touch. I also suspect the numbers game comes into play here- if your on 10 dates a month, your going to be far too busy with the 4 who want to see you again to care about the 6 who don't. How do you find the time as single mums though?
So before I launch into analysis/whinge of 'what I'm doing wrooooong' I just wanted to check with other woman what is actually normal.
FWIW this has been through Tinder and POF. I found Tinder the easiest to get matches/dates, and the rejection rate was similar but that the men i met from pof seemed more genuine/relationship-focused.