I feel so lonely!

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I am in a marriage where my husband thinks he's the ideal man, but he's abusive rude and down right nasty at times.

I spend my time treading on egg shells around him and I feel I can't spend time with my DCs cos he feels I should be spending it with him.

I have friends but I sick of hearing myself moaning! I can't seem to find the strength to get out of this but I am so depressed too. I'm not living my life how I want to! I feel like I'm living for him.

I just feel so lonely 😭

Leave.

Seriously.

Big step, I know, and the first couple of months will seem very lonely. But after that, you'll be much less lonely and wish you'd done it years ago.

Honestly, there's no other answer.

If you stay, things will be the same. If you leave, things will be different - better in so many ways.

You really don't have to live like that.

Your life, your decision. Fear of the unknown can be restricting, No-one can predict the future.
But a journey of a thousand miles starts with the first step.

Before long your dc will also be walking on egg shells. . That's no childhood. . And no life for you either. . Honestly with a df like that all your kids need to flourish are a happy and mentally healthy dm imo!! You need to ask yourself if they will resent you for leaving him - or eventually for staying with him.

why on earth would you marry

I don't understand

Do you have the money and the wherewithal to leave?

I was in a very similar situation with my now ex husband. He was a very selfish man, manipulative, very good at emotional blackmail. You have to think about your children, they come first no matter what. I did, and I'm so much better off for many reasons. The moment I left him, I felt happier and stronger.

Go to your local CAB; most solicitors will give you a free 30/45 minute session. Your true friends will not think you're moaning. They will stand by you and want to help however they can. Your family too.

My fingers are crossed that you're able to find the strength to leave. It will be the best thing for you and your children. It's a scary prospect, but I'm a firm believer in everything happening for a reason, and for the better.