I don't fancy him any more

[spudulike]

my husband and I were childhood sweethearts and have been together for 14 yrs, we always had a good sex life up till now, at least 5 times a week but recently I have totally gone off him and I find having sex very boring. Is that normal? what can I do to fancy him again and stop us argueing with each other about not having sex any more? we have 2 children ages 4 and 6.
Thanks

Meant !

I agree, some sexy lingerie might put you in the mood (and it will definitely put HIM in the mood!); maybe you could hire a sexy video, not porn if you don't feel comfortable with it, but something like Chocolat or 9 a half weeks.

Sounds like this is a sudden thing after having what I would consider an above average sex-life (frequency wise anyway!). Maybe it would be worth getting a blood test to check your hormone levels? Could be as simple as that. There are also some natural supplements like Horny Goat Weed (I kid you not!) which are supposed to be good for the libido.

Then again, I'm probably not the right person to hand out sex advice, since I'm a take-it-or-leave-it kinda gal...til I'm in the throes of it so to speak, then I'm fine! But I have to admit I do see my period as a having a week off; it's just such a good excuse not to have sex, and the pressure is off IYKWIM. Am I the only one who is that frigid???

Hi Spudulike

Hey, sounds like a case of mid-relationship crisis (I saw my sister-in-law go through it, but I won't go there with the outcome!)

I remember watching a program on Sky One recently about spicing up sexlives and they suggested role playing (dressing up - naughty nurse, etc...) or, the other one they suggested which worked quite well for a couple was the going out and pretending you don't know each other date, i.e- re-inact the whole meeting scenerio again (and you have to be completely serious about it for it to work). Don't forget to dress sexily, perhaps in something that you would not normally wear.

Hi Spudulike,

How is it going? Are you feeling any happier and have there been any improvements?

sorry I havent replied before but I dont get to the computer often.
I think we may be coming to a compromise, he says he still fancies me and wants us to do exciting things, I said that I dont want to do the particular things he suggested but perhaps lingerie or dressing up or even trying sex in different places. He seems quite happy to do this. We havent had a chance yet but I am hoping my mum will babysit in a couple of weeks and we can go out or she will have the kids at her house and we can have the place to ourselves. I do feel a bit better now (thankyou for asking Oxocube) and I see a way out of it. Maybe with a few drinks I will even feel like having sex again.