DRY 17

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[This message is actually from Sober Sarah! She wanted this thread to start with links everyone will find useful. MNHQ]

If you're quitting alcohol for a brighter sober future come and join us here. A very welcoming bunch supporting ebach other every step of the way. smile
We have put together some helpful info and links, to help you do this Smile tiredofthinkingaboutdrinking.com

Tired of thinking about drinking, Belle's website filled with free stuff as well as subscription courses and an account of her four years sober.

joinclubsoda.co.uk/ Club Soda - to help you make the change you want.
www.sobersassylife.com Sober Sassy Life - A Selection of Articles, Blogs and Freebies to get you unstuck, and on the way to your Sober Sassy Life! Also has paid for courses.
thesoberschool.com/ - an online hub with the mission of inspiring and supporting women who are tired of feeling hungover

www.blogtalkradio.com/bubblehour - podcasts on a huge range of issues relating to addiction and recovery

www.smartrecovery.org.uk/ - an alternative to AA. Meetings nationwide and online.

Useful meditation or relaxation apps
www.headspace.com Headspace for calming the brain chatter
www.withandrewjohnson.com Andrew Johnson stop drinking app
Helpful blogs from people who are sober
sothisissober.com/ our own vxa's blog
www.alcoholfree2016.com our own Lily's blog
www.alcoholfree2016.com our own Lucy's blog
www.sobergrowing/blogspot.co.uk our own Sober Sarah's blog

All of these blogs contain links to loads of other brilliant blogs.

Sobriety counters
meetnomo.com/index.html
www.pilanites.com/streaks/

Hope this helps you ! Love Sober Sarah and Vxa

Just a quick check in from work. First shift back behind the bar since Everything. First couple of wines I poured were hard but after that it has been fine. And I survived seeing the co-worker who seen me at my drunkest before he left. He didn't stag me so I suspect he doesn't remember much either.

I think it might be sunshine, iirc alcohol speeds up digestion, why you get the opposite of constipation when drinking I would up your fiber and make sure you are drinking enough water.

3 weeks is fab mini, well done on that and a successful day out yesterday booze free.

Must have needed the rest Rarity, glad you're feeling positive today and got things sorted with your dp.

Good day here. Hospital appointments all sorted. Was really worried about the doctor not taking me seriously and dismissing me but got my referrals through for further investigation. Phew. Going to try and head to bed soon as ds is coughing badly, has asthma and hits him hard, suspect I may try and snatch sleep while I can

Hi all, glad you all had good days

My drinking is/was complicated. Until about 3 years ago it was totally off the scale binging at weekends to sick, falling over etc but super controlled and zero all week. I then hurt my back and I spiralled a bit into wine in the evenings but not binging at weekends.

I really struggle to limit the evening wine to every other night or just twice a week because I never drink enough to be very drunk, I can always not finish the bottle, and took to pouring the rest away to stop me finishing it the next evening.
Weekends became quite controlled, always always booze but kind of moderated.

But it's this constant moderation and worry about the moderating that has started to slowly drive me insane. Most of the time I am not even stressed about anything and don't really need to drink it for any kind of reason at all.

I think I am addicted to that sleepy feelings you get after a few drinks. The woozy. I don't like being drunk and I don't like hangovers. When I was doing evening wine I knew exactly what wine in what glass and how much I could drink that has no hangover or seemingly ill effects. Didn't stop me doing anything with kids (they in bed or we watching a film), doesn't stop me getting up for work, so I could fool myself that it isn't a problem

Morning all.

I am feeling dreadful. I just lost my rag with DS. Dh and DS needed to leave early for school this morning for various reasons- only about 10 minutes earlier. I woke Ds up with his favourite breakfast of nutella on toast and a glass of milk- which he whinged and sulked about because apparently he wanted pancakes. Then he complained about the school trousers as they had the wrong sort of button on them, then complained because he wanted a schook jumper with sleeves (dirty)not a school vest.

I lost it. I yelled at him and threw his socks at him and told him to stop whinging. I NEVER do that.

He's left in hysterics and DH is ross also so it will all be a really rather horrid start to the day.

I so want a glass of wine right now.... and it is only 7.45 in the morning! I feel so horrible. He is 7, and I KNOW he has issues with a sleeveless vest, but I have 6 fucking sleeveless vests and only 2 with sleeves and last night we did not get back home until late and I did not wash them.

Please tell me other people go through this shit before school also and it is not just me? [bangs head]

Both DS and I will brood on this all day. I did give him a cuddle before he left and told him to have a good day but he was beside himself when he left.

Sorry, all me me me.

Hope everyone has a good day.

Hi alice no it isn't only you. I have a daily battle to get DD up, fed, dressed, hair done (major strife she wants to do it herself!) and to school on time. You have my sympathy

What are your plans for today? Could you focus on something positive to take the stress out on? I always feel better when I've scrubbed something

Morning all hope you have a great day

Thanks rarity.I am feeling very fragile, out of all proportion to the actual argument we had.

Still in pjs. Today is a day where DH was going to do both school runs so I have nowhere to be. I should be finishing off accounts for an audit but am MNetting and watching tv. I love working from home sometimes, but the distraction of an office would come in handy today! (My colleagues are in the US so they will be online again in about 5 hours or so).

I have loads of ironing to do though.... and some Real Housewives telly to catch up on....

Facing my first sober birthday in 25 years...

At least I can still 'cake'

A pj day is good every now and then alice. I didn't get to sleep until 3am (one of those nights) so I'm slobbing on the sofa. I've got a repair man coming tomorrow to look at my cooker and the dining room currently looks like a hurricane has hit. He is going to think I am a right lazy oink! I'd better get my backside into gear shortly

Cake is good BG and being able to be present for the whole day rather than viewing from inside the haze of alcohol.

I do apologise for my truely awful pun

Happy, happy birthday BG and enjoy an extra slice of that cake. You will feel brilliant waking up tomorrow accomplished and hangover free.

Alice don't be so hard on yourself. My house is madness a lot of mornings I am not a morning person, why I try to get up before them and have coffee in peace first. Unfortunately neither of my dc seem to be either, soooo sloooow to boot and constantly bickering. I live in a semi, my next door neighbours have school aged children and I hear their mum losing her shit the odd time too.

Happy Birthday BG !

Alice everyone has mornings like that, please don't be hard on yourself. It feels shitty now but will all be forgotten.

Happy Birthday BG!!!!! I say 'cake' !!

Thanks everyone. I had a nap and am feeling better.

handed in my work and put my out of office on. Spending the rest of the day sorting out the spare room.

What other plans for your birthday BG ?

Birthday plans..... coming into work two hours early

But hopefully, catastrophe free, I can leave at 10pm, instead of midnight and sleeeeeep.

then some catch up TV tomorrow before work

rock.and.roll

Friend dropped round a bottle of AF fizz and I cried, because it was a really thoughtful gesture - I don't want real fizz, but she'd clearly thought it through...

Utterly shattered - back shift is grim enough without having to get here two hours early!!

My rings should be delivered tomorrow though

Onwards

Happy Birthday BG .
Alice, glad you're feeling better. Those kind of days feature on a regular basis here. Thank goodness they are usually forgotten as quickly as they arrive.

That is all....

Happy birthday BG hope you eat all the cake! X

Love the cake BG How very kind and considerate of your friend to buy you AF fizz. Enjoy your precious sleep! Fingers crossed your rings arrive tomorrow.

I've been looking online tonight for a little 100 day treat (20 days away) but nothing appears to be jumping out at me. I'd love a ring myself but can't wear them. Instead I ended up sorting out dm's mother's day present but pleased I've got that sorted now.

Glad you're feeling better now Alice and hope things have calmed down emotionally wise for you too Ruby.

Morning all! Another lovely day here.

Is anyone else struggling to get to sleep? I have cut out caffeine and have camomile tea before bed. But I'm regularly not able to go to sleep until 2/3am. Inam getting rather tired!

I cannot stop sleeping. I'm so tired. I can't get out of bed easily. It's horrible!
When I am drinking I sleep really well in my mind but I'm sure I don't, because I have to get up to go to the loo or hangover wakes me up.

You need to find a new way to relax and unwind and make your body and mind sleepy, have you tried hot bath, no screen time?

I find it hard to have a bath in the evenings kiki as DD's bedroom is next to the bathroom and she has woken up before now! I am guilty of too much screen time I often end up MNing late at night .
Will try reading tonight I think instead.

I am just so sodding tired!

Am also off work with depression at the moment (hoping AF will help with that too) and spent the first few weeks doing nothing but sleep. I'm staying awake in the day now. But I'm shattered by about 7pm and then I get a second wind and can't flick the mental switch to go to sleep. It's frustrating as one of the things i was really looking forward to not drinking was some decent sleep.

Got the repair man coming today to see if my cooker is fixable, have everything crossed.

Have a great day everyone!

Btw kiki I saw your posts on another thread trying to help. I commend your resolve. All of your sensible advice was falling on very deaf ears. I hope that things do not spiral for that OP but I suspect she has a looong way to go before she is able to face up to her drinking. I just hope she hasn't lost everything by then. Well done you for feeling strong enough to support someone else (even if she wasn't listening).