A year off dating and now this - perhaps I should give up

[lottieandmia]

I am not very good at attracting the right people. Anyway, I met this Romanian guy who seemed really nice and we got on well. The reason I mention he's Romanian is i don't know about the culture. He became quite full on with me at an early stage, saying he wanted us to get married and when I was having sex with him he was whispering in my ear that he wanted me to have a baby which I thought was very strange.

I said to him that these things take time and that you don't just marry someone you just met. Since then he backed right off and had been really funny with me. He also practically forced me to have sex with him before I went home even though I had to leave in 10 minutes and I didn't want to rush it.

I am not sure what to think. I have AS so sometimes I don't see things coming. I felt that by having a years break I would learn something but obviously not :((

It's quite common for women with AS to struggle with boundaries though. I realise I need to work on this. I have parents who undermine my feelings and always have. For example, I found out today that my friend has died and I'm very upset but my mother has rubbished my feelings and told me I have no time to grieve for him.

So it's no wonder I question my own feelings. But I also know it needs to be worked on.

Yes, I know, lottie, and it's been hard, but that's the answer. That's what you have to do.

My boundaries are now so watertight that I'm single and that's unreastically likely to change because of it!

Thank you. The problem is that every time I meet someone new I immediately think they couldn't possibly be as bad as X so I let my guard down. Never again. I should have known that love bombing is always a bad sign.

Yes, I used to do that. I now work on the basis that they're all as bad as each other.

Haven't been proved wrong yet...