My estranged husband took our baby,HELP!

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Hello, very new here but I believe you will help.
After discovering my husbands affair I confronted him and he denied it. I was tired of being alone and him being away a lot and had an affair too. He found out.
I am in the U.K. on a spouse visa, we have a three year old who I have looked after on my own since she was born. He has supported financially. We had a long distance relationship after he left my home country when our daughter was 6 months old and joined him in the U.K. Last year.
He's angry that I had an affair, he's affair is now forgotten coz 'women are different ' it's okay for men. I am financially dependent on him though I have the right to work and have a job starting February. He threatens to have me deported, he threatens to stop paying my rent.
This is why when he showed up after a three week absence yesterday I allowed him to take my child. I'm also afraid that the court will rule in his favor coz he has money and I don't.
He said he would bring her back before her birthday on the 11th of February. Once he drove off he said he intends to put her in school and she will now live with him. He refused to tell me where in London he has taken her, I'm in the south.
How do I get her back? What can I do ?

Hope the solicitor has some positive news x

Hope your solicitor could be helpful. From what I've read here there won't be a great deal you can do other than taking Court action, which will be expensive take time.

However, meanwhile, you need to take care of yourself so make sure you're eating enough and drinking water. You also need to check your visa status.

I think Acrossthepond is talking about a Emergency Residence Order, and I think you have to go to the Court first thing in the morning and really push to see a judge that day - and they'll try to dissuade you, but stay strong and insist.

Otherwise, there's an Interim Residence Order, or just a straightforward Residence Order. If you can get one of them then you can get your dd back as soon as it's granted.

Good luck.

How are things, OP? Was the solicitor any help?

To the Op: of course this is hideously painful, which is very likely the motive. He doesn't want full custody of your baby, but he does want you to be in agony because he is vengeful over your affair.

So, while it's probably best to show him and the court, etc. the tearful face, you should also try to be at peace as much as possible in private.

Will he harm your child? No. If he has no history of extreme mental illness and/or violence, the odds that he'd do that are about the same as being struck by falling space debris.

Will he flew the country? Almost certainly not. He can't legally cross the border with her and there are myriad international family law treaties that would allow you to retrieve the baby if he did. If the man is not willing to stay on the run until the baby grows up, it's not likely he will remove that child out of the country.

Presumably you know where he works, so finding him will be simple.

You need a court order awarding you custody and support, and setting out his visitation. Here in the US, what he has done (by tricking you into handing over the baby and refusing to disclose her whereabouts, etc.) would virtually guarantee you will be granted full custody.

You are experiencing terror, which is certainly understandable, but you are almost certainly not actually in great peril and neither is your baby.

My best wishes for your family, and your peace of mind.