Long term lurker. Spent today with my lovely wonderful friend. Her dh of 20 years left her totally out of the blue last year. Told her he wasn't happy, no one else, just needed time alone etc etc.
It now transpires that he's been shagging a woman from work (and has been since before they broke up)
Today he called her (they have 2 dc) and she challenged him on the fact that he was cheating and he said he only did it (and ended it with her) cause he knows she was shagging one of his friends.
This is total and utter crap and everyone knows it, when this gets out it will ruin lots of his friendships as its a blatant lie and is insulting to not just her but his friend and his friends wife!
My friend is in turmoil, she keeps questioning what she had done wrong, did she behave in a way that implied cheating (she did not) is the break up of the family her fault, why would he say this etc.
Please can you advise me of any books i can give her or advise I can give. He is clearly trying to cover his guilt but it's easy for me to say. She is in such a mess I really need something that's going to hit home and make her realise it's him not her