I have been distancing myself from one of the mums at school after I invited her to an event at Halloween. She said she would let me know if she could come. I hear nothing and so go alone. When I get there she is there with someone else. No invite to join her at the event so go off. Yes I was pissed off as she could have said she was going with someone and I wouldn't have been bothered.
This was someone who's daughter attended two different classes with my daughter and who I considered up till that moment to be quite close with. We had confided in each other quite a lot.
After distancing myself I found out that she had been lying about various friendships whilst I was her friend and keeping friendships she had a secret. No idea why and really quite strange behaviour so just decided to let the friendship drift completely. I don't have time for playground politics and don't want to be involved.
My dd is not really friendly with hers and although in the same class they do not play together at all. Because of this I haven't invited her daughter to my dd's party which is bloody expensive per head so only inviting a small group.
Her daughter has since started bullying my dd I believe because of this or because of her mother gossiping about me in public. I decided to go into school to sort the matter out. Stupidly asked another 'friend' if she knew what was going on at school and advised her that there was some verbal bullying going on and that I would be discussing it with school. There had been a group of them picking on my dd at swimming and my dd cried for half an hour when she got home. She is only 6 so a really deal for her to be this upset.
The next morning ex friend stormed up to me had a go at me in front of my 3 kids for not telling her there was a problem. I advised her it was a matter for school to deal with as happening at school. Then she raced in to school to grab the teacher before me! It was actually quite laughable. I discussed the matter with the staff who were present at the incident and with the teacher. Happy that the school can resolve the matter and deal with it themselves. I have also fallen out with the 'friend' I had informed about the situation as told her she was obviously untrustworthy.
However I am now left in the situation where I have just attended a 3 hour dance classes for my dd with her sniping and gossiping about me behind my back. I am not deaf and some of the stuff I was being accused of was ridiculous!
Not sure what advice I am looking for I know it is all so petty. Problem being that I have 2 dc with sen so friendship world is very small and now feel like I have lost not only those 2 but any other friends I had to her malicious gossip.
So as not to drip feed I am slightly socially awkward myself and most probably would be diagnosed with aspergers if I was tested.
Please help me gain some perspective on this matter so I can get it out of my head and stop dwelling on it.