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OLD ex of 3 weeks chasing me to return his socks

33 replies

bluestardressinggown · 28/01/2017 10:19

I met someone online last year. He seemed OK to start with but I ended it after 3 weeks because it became apparent to me that he hadn't really moved on from not one, but two of his previous relationships. He would mention one ex constantly i.e. 'oh Ex used to take fabulous pictures, I'll need to show you the photos she took on our holiday to blah blah 5 years ago' (like why would I want to see his ex girlfriends holiday snaps). He also had a lot of issues regarding his most recent ex who he only split up with in August. They have a young son together. He constantly complained about her behaviours, saying that she emotionally and physically bullied him, that she bullied him into having the baby. Things started to come out like how he had broken her finger during an argument (he said it was self defence). HE also said that she used to say what a horrible person he was and he would appease her by agreeing with her. The last week we were 'together' and which was the nail in the coffin for me, he said that he had made his mum cry by snapping at her at a family Christmas event, had had multiple arguments with his ex (the mother of his child) and fell out with all of his colleagues at work (to which I received a massive essay via Whatsapp). I got to the conclusion that this was someone who had too many issues for me and I found myself not really having any respect for him. A common denominator was coming through. I have a lot of big drama and shit going on in my life at the moment (I've got another thread about it) so don't need this sort of bollocks on top of that. I told him that I felt it wasn't going to work out between us. This was after 3 weeks of meeting. He has since then sent me multiple messages, saying how distraught and confused he is by my decision. He implies that it is down to my own drama in my life, and says stuff like he wanted to be a tree which I could rely on in the stormy weather (or some such bollocks). Anyway I really wanted to tell him he is not a fucking tree, a tree has roots deep in the earth which makes it strong, he is more like a bit of tumbleweed blowing around.

Anyway, he has latched onto the fact that he lent me a pair of socks. He wants them back. He keeps asking for them, I actually don't know what he is talking about, I don't know if I have them. But this is a bit weird isn't it. I wouldn't expect contact still , it is a month now that I ended it and we only knew each other for 3 weeks!

Would I be unreasonable to send him a message telling him what I think plus that I don't know where his socks are?

OP posts:
ageingrunner · 28/01/2017 11:43

I know I said send him one last message but if you haven't been in contact with him at all, just continue to not be in contact. He's just changing tack to try and provoke you into responding.

Hissy · 28/01/2017 12:00

He's trying to get you to engage.

Don't. Block him and move on with everything

Your instincts were bang on, don't let him bully you into giving him what he wants.

Shayelle · 28/01/2017 12:15

For gods sake do not respond to the lunatic. Block!

TGItsNotChristmasAnymore · 28/01/2017 13:07

Just block him, I would've done it weeks ago.xx

TheNaze73 · 28/01/2017 13:36

He sounds Pop Larkin!

Stormwhale · 28/01/2017 13:44

Definitely ignore and block. No need to message at all. It's a pair of socks ffs.

If you must message keep it short: I do not have your socks. Goodbye.

debbs77 · 28/01/2017 16:15

If you block him then you won't even know if he is trying to message you

TrojanWhore · 16/02/2017 21:07

Has he desisted?

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