Long Distance Relationships

[Ursula1]

Have you ever been in one? do you think they can work?

Do you think that a couple who only see each other twice in every month can really work out?

What are the drawbacks to long distance relationships in your opinion?

Would you ever consider it? (as a starting relationship, not a 'normal' relationship that turns long distance).

i would think if you're young enough and only experiencing love for the 1st time then NO but if both parties have been thru the wars with other partners and mature enough to remain focused on their relationship will aprt well it hsould work but it woulnt be easy

i dont think it can be sustained really, which is why the relationship i have atm will end in about a month, when he moves abroad

and is also why i turned down the opportunity of a relationship with someone else who lives abroad

BF and I are miles apart. We met in December and I won't see him until May. He'll be here for 2 or maybe 4 weeks then go back to Iraq. Then in September I'm going to US with him, he's Texan. So will have 2 or 3 weeks there. We email and ring and I love him so it's worth it.

If it's love then nothing can part you. We started hardly knowing each other but it's fantastic. Both in our 30s with failed marriages but have tons in common apart from that.

mine will be 6000 miles away for most of the year, but then he will be moving to another country, so i don't know when or if i will see him again, and certainly not on a regular basis.

the not knowing when we would meet again would be too hard fore me i think

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I was engaged before I met my DH. He was a gorgeous pilot and was dutch. He lived in The Netherlands and I in Florida. It was a lot of back and forth. There were other reasons why we called it quits but I will say it was hard. We probably saw eachother more than most Longdistance couples. I think very few make it in the end.

We made it, met on t'internet thru mutual friend, he spent every weekend driving 200 miles to be with me n my ds, i got the train down to him on half terms, we did that for 6 months then he moved the 200 miles for me. he was miserable oop north so we moved back to south wales last july, been together 2 yrs now and have a gorgeous week old baby boy

i think if you both make the effort its worth it if your in love.

I met my dp on the internet in a chat room it started just talking and more talking and found that each other couldnt' stop talking on msn. and then the phone ran my phone bill up through the roof ringing him, he came to visit for a week he was in birmingham i was in kent. And he never went back, lol.

Been eight months now.

They're not for me, but I suppose they can work if you put your mind to it.

No, I'd not consider it as in from the starting relationship stage.

Everyone is different i suppose. What is someones rubbish is anothers treasure, so they say. i think i'm talking a load of rubbish but hey . lol

i had a long distance relationship which lasted 4 months.i finished it when i realised he wanted me to move near to him so that he could move out of his mum+dads house(he was 34 btw)but not have to worry about bills/cooking etc and could still drink at the smae pub and still spend half his wages on weed

i think long distance relationships can work,line in alovehearts case where one person eventually moves to be near the other(many of my friends' marriages began in this way).but if the relationship is doomed from the start cos the bloke is an a*hole it doesnt matter if he lives next door or on t'other side of the world!

like in aloveheart's case

I think it depends on what kind of long distance relationship you?re talking about. IMO there?s a vast difference between a relationship where you live a distance apart but still see each other on a regular basis, and one where you only see each other occasionally.

When dh and I got together he was at uni in Southampton. I used to travel up there every weekend to see him. It was hard because I couldn?t see a time when we would be able to be together permanently. But I knew that I would see him again on Friday when I left on a Monday morning. We were like that for 21 months and then he got a job in Cardiff and I moved there to be with him. We?ve been together nearly 12 years now and married for nearly 8.

But I think that a relationship where you live a vast distance apart and only see each other sporadically is another matter. I think it?s hard to not know when you?re going to see each other next, to not be together when one or the other needs support, because it?s just not the same talking on the phone or on msn/the net, if you need to be held or cuddled then you need it in person, and I think the longer such relationships go on the less likely they are to succeed.

I know it could have been completely different and realise that i hated him or not fancied him or whatever. but he's the most caring, loving man i have ever met. He is my toyboy though, lol. He was very miserable where he was but seems alot happier now.

My last relationship was a LDR - he lived 200 miles from me and we saw each other nearly every weekend - either I'd travel up there or he'd come down to visit me.

It's not easy but it can be done. Years ago I had a LDR that had been 'local' and he had to go to Scotland for six months. Although we saw each other every fortnight during this time, somehow it wasn't the same and we broke up about a year afterwards as we really had grown apart whilst being apart. At least if you start off with an LDR and you still manage to get on, then you have a better chance of it going the distance than one that starts of local and ends up an LDR.

DP and i have been together over 2 yrs now. We were doing the long distance thing for roughly 5 months. We saw each other most weekends. It was nothing serious to start off with, just a bit of fun. But we fell in love and decided that one of us had to make the move. It was me. I moved from Manchester to Wolverhampton. I was so in love but couldnt see us going anywhere due to the distance. Moving was the best decision i ever made. Weve now got our own place, were engaged and got a babay on the way . I do beleive long distance relationships can last but its hard. VERY HARD.

Me and my DP have been together 5 years! My friend met her DH on holiday and they did the long distance thing for 2 years before she moved to be with him.

I met my DP at their wedding, and we did the long distance (230 miles) thing for 3 1/2 years. I went to see him whenever my DD was with her dad (every other weekend) and he would come see me and stay for 4 days every six weeks.

I moved to be with DP cause wherever I go my DD goes with me, but he would have had to leave his DS behind cause he he doesn't have custody (although he practically lives with us now).

Bought our house 15 months ago (would have been a much cheaper mortgage where I lived), and our DS was one last week, so I think it has all worked out exceptionally well! Was hard work sometimes but happier now than I have ever been!