Does anyone want to resign from their personal life and move to a new one? Like when you get frustrated in your role at work, find a new amazing one, and then hand in your notice. That's how I feel. I am just so tired of it all.
I feel like I am in this endless cycle of trying to get my husband to be on the same team as me. We go through, me feeling like he is the 3rd child, I moan, he frantically runs around trying to do his share, he slacks and back to the beginning. I feel he does stuff as he thinks he needs to support me, he doesn't do it because he owns it. Does that make sense?
For example he changed his mobile number. Didn't inform nursery, he just didn't think to do so. A chance conversation with the nursery manager made me realise that they didn't have his up to date number. It just bugs me that he didn't think they should know. He never gets the email newsletter as he isn't registered. Sometimes I forward it on sometimes I just feel 'meh, well if you can't be arsed to join it why should I bother'. For what it's worth, he wouldn't think to forward me an email from nursery nor tell me about it.
He works next door to our branch of our bank. We need something doing which requires more than a quick conversation, so he said he would go and do it. But he still hasn't done it, and if I don't keep asking him to do it, it will get forgotten about. This has been going on since Xmas.
We are currently in dispute with a contractor working on our home. Talking through the plan of action with husband, made me realise he doesn't know all the detail so I had to show him some of the paperwork. As we are talking, I am thinking “but you should know this, we have been through this and you were there when it was discussed”. I felt like the conversation we just had was to bring him up to speed, when actually he should have known where we are from previous conversation.
He says he does alot, and feels I am unfair on him. He does do alot of doing stuff. He will cook dinner, he will bath and put the kids to bed, he takes them to their sporting activities but he doesn't own any jigsaw of what keeps our family life ticking over. He doesn't own the admin. And it really fucks me off. Some of this shit we are dealing with his massive and I shouldn't be dealing with it on my own. He has gone off to bed in a huff.
I have checked out a few times and gone and done my own thing for awhile, but I feel as a family unit we suffer as we are both in a mood and the children pick up on it. I just can't see who to go from here.