My OH and I have been going through a rough patch - together 10 years and one dc aged 4 (we both have 2 grown up children each who don't live at home ) - we both work full time & OH also does private jobs most weekends and most evenings is out at boxing club as a coach for women only group and kids classessex - I'm not from where we live his family are local butility mine are nearly an hour away so I tend to visit them over the weekend. Just before Christmas we had a massive argument that he doesn't spend enough time with me or DC. I said did he wanth to try and work at relationship he said let's see how we go!!! Christmas was OK then on 4th January he said it's over - he said whaTeversham we had was gone and he was doing it for both of us as we were both unhappy. We are now still living together until I can arrange to move back to my area - new school and childcare for my DC and a new home etc. My other problem is that my OH (really should put ex lol) is being extra nice and wants to share our bed, cuddle me and yes still trying to have sex with me - says he loves me, likes me and fancies me but still doesn't want to be in a relationship with me - I'm in bits and my head is all over the place why would you have those feelings but still want to destroy any family? ??? I've asked ifor he's having an affair physical or emotional but he said no.....he has one of his ladies from boxing club on his Facebook who seems to comment on everything he puts and always 'loves' his photos etc and he's always on his phone and everything is hidden!!!! I know I'm probably better off without him but I'm so upset that my DC'so life is going to be turned upside down.