Who has shared intrests/hobbies with oh

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I have a few hobbies/intrests/music tastes. But when I think back I have never really had a girlfriend or wife with the same intrests.

How important is having share intrests to a long term relationship? Who in a LTR shares in a hobby together with there oh? Was this an important factor in choosing them? Likewise who has a successful LTR with absolutely no shared hobbies/intrest?

DP and I have plenty of shared interests and, perhaps more importantly, shared values that drive our decisions but we also have hobbies and interests of our own. DP is very keen on sport (he's an excellent tennis player and skier and trains at the gym with a personal trainer twice a week) which I am not at all interested in and he loves cars/planes/boats which leave me cold (though having a private pilot comes in very handy sometimes). My interests are far more aesthetically driven - I like cooking (fortunately he loves eating), decorating, styling etc. But we can both discuss ideas, culture, politics almost endlessly and share films, theatre, shows, travel, books. We are very unashamedly gendered in our household, which we assume entirely and appreciate one another for. The DC are also unashamedly gendered! A boy is a boy and a girl is a girl chez nous.

We go to jewellery classes together. We go to dowsing days/ workshops together.

We enjoy travelling, cinema, theatre.

We don't read the same books and he hates reality tv. He likes terry pratchett, sci fi , dr who that sort of thing.

We rub along well together.

I think it's important. Beyond just shared interests and values, I want to connect with someone over the stuff that's essential to me and and close to my heart. Music and theatre and literature are completely central to my life and I need to be with someone who gets those things, because I feel like otherwise we'd "miss" each other. People who see the arts as just an extra, a hobby, are never going to be able to get close to my heart, or I to theirs. Connecting emotionally with art is something I want to do with the person closest to me, not because they're humouring me or trying to share in it - that sense that if we weren't there together, we'd both be there anyway, but that being there together enriches and deepens it.

That probably makes no sense. But I had 18 years with a completely wonderful person who basically had no idea what I was on about. Not her fault, nobody's fault, but she missed the core of me (and I of her) because we made the mistake of thinking shared interests weren't that important when we got together.

My bf loves to sail and has a yacht. The only problem is that I hate it so much, am frightened of it and get seasick I had never been on a yacht before we met and was v enthusiastic to be a sailor. This is something he views as a problem,

We do like crosswords, puzzles and dog walking/general walking.

Personally I think us having separate pursuits is a good thing but every now and again he brings the boat up as an issue.

We have a shared interest/passion which we follow where we can.
I have my own interests such as choir and latin dancing which I do alone. My OH enjoys watching TV to the point where he will dedicate a day to it
I can't bear it (TV) so I'll leave him to it but our planning and talking about our shared interest means I'm happy with the status quo.