Would this bother you?

[weluvu]

We've just come back from a meal at a mexican resteraunt well known for its extortionate prices.

It was DP's idea to go so I assumed he could afford it.

Anyway we got there and was told there was 1 hours wait for the table, we were directed to the bar and asked to wait there. Whilst at the bar a waiter brought over 2 menu's for us to look at.

After seeing the prices I said we should maybe not get too much... so DP stood up, dug into his pockets and got out a few notes and announced after counting "well I have £25..." he then went back into his pockets to see how much he had in change.

Maybe I'm a bit anal about these things but I was mortified, IMO he'd made it blatently obvious to everyone around us that we couldn't really afford to be there.

After "discussing" it with him afterwards he said I need to "chill", so would this bother you or am I being OTT about it?

I do almost always tip in cash, as I know lots of restaurants rip staff off over the tip.

Doesn't mean I don't get funny looks when I put in 0.0 on the tip line on the CC slip, though.

I wouldn't be too worried about him counting his money in public - I'd be more concerned that he'd come to a pricey restaurant with not enough money to pay his half.

I didn't expect him to pay for it all, we were paying half each...it was just the way he looked at the menu and then started digging around in his pockets that irritated me, how bloody immature, it was like a 10 year old kid digging in his pockets for enough money for the latest trading cards.

We've been to this restraunt before and he DOES know how much it is.

He's done similar before though, we went to Donny car show last year and half way through the day we went to get a drink and a big group of blokes made space on their table for me and the kids to sit down...DP then stood there in front of everyone and started digging around in his pockets, brought out some notes, counted them and then announced "well, I have £45 left...I need to save £10 for my taxi on friday so that means I have £35 to last until then...".

Surely it's childish to do this?? I've never known a man do this before, its so degrading.

He doesnt use his credit cards as they're all maxed out and his debit cards never have any money to spend on them anyway .

It's just the embarrasment that gets me, why let everyone know that you're totally skint like he does?

Ah, see, I wouldn't be bothered by checking his cash. But I would be bothered by someone who couldn't manage their money.

I've dated a few fairly poor blokes, and that was fine, as they knew how much they could afford and were sensible about things.

I'd find it deeply irritating. The world is not interested in his cab on Friday, why is he announcing it?

It's just naff.

i remember a thread a couple of months ago similar to this one. are you the same poster?

It's just ill-mannered IMO. If he's going somewhere he knows he will have to spend money, he should check how much he's got before he gets there.

WHy the ?