Head vs heart/hormones

[Tessasaurus899]

Long story short here...
My fiance of 10 year's became depressed and went on a downward spiral which led to him leaving me. He slept with a mutual friend a few weeks later after a drunken night out, she has admitted to being after him for months and caused many arguments, which conveniently ended up with her being pregnant. She makes no secret of wanting anothet baby so she doesn't need work while the others are at school. During these few weeks he was still seeing me very often and sleeping with me. When he found out she was pregnant he told me straight away and cried which he never does about how he wanted it with me and we got back together. We were planning to have a baby before all this happened (our first) and I'm so ridiculously broody and so jealous of other mums and expecting mums that i just want to cry. I feel like they are everywhere! He wanted a baby for years and i always said its nt the right time but now because the mutual friend is difficult he doesn't want one yet until this one is born. Due in feb. She makes life difficult asking him round for stupid reasons all the time and says I'm not allowed near the baby when it born. Am i broody because it should have been me expecting...i don't know what to think anymore

[PaintingOwls]

Sorry I know you worry about strangers but you could use agencies and interview people, etc.

You could temporarily rent the whole house out and find elsewhere for yourself.

There is always a way.

[StumblyMonkey]

I've never ever seen a situation where someone follows their 'heart' while their head says no that worked out positively.

Think of it this way....it's not your 'heart', that's just a muscle that pumps blood. It's not capable of thoughts. It's actually a part of your brain called the amygdala. It's responsible for lust, broodiness and many other animal type drives. It's the part of the brain we had when we were still reptiles. It only cares about having sex, having babies and is driven by hormones. It's very, very primitive and stupid.

Your 'head' is the frontal cortex part of your brain. It's very clever. It's the last thing we evolved and it's good at logic, figuring out the most likely consequences of our actions and all sorts of other cool and intelligent shit.

Now reframe your question from 'should I follow my head or my heart?' to 'should I follow my extremely intelligent and logical side or my stupid, hormone driven reptilian brain?'

I hope this neuroscience helps!