EX now thinks he's in a position to do 50/50

[Newbrummie]

I don't know whether to laugh or cry tbh.
If he was less of a tool this would be my perfect scenario with a normal person.
His situation now is he's living with a women who has three grown up children at university.... they come home as you'd expect for visits and their beds and bedrooms are there for them, again as you'd expect.
He thinks this is absolutely fine and that he can now - living an hour away from their schools - can have them 50% of the time and of course when the kids come back from uni I will have to have mine. That's whether it's my week or not.
This will of course reduce his csa liability to zero, not sure what he thinks will happen in the school holidays and we've no idea what this other woman makes of it all.
Just for extra fun, the kids don't like her and only agreed this weekend to go to her house on the understanding she wasn't at the house, away for the weekend.
It's not me is it .... this is never going to get agreed to if we go back to court

I'd just ignore his crap and make non committal noises. Save every email/text where he says he can't do it etc.

And then wait til he takes it back to court to arrange. He will then have to get his new woman on board to agree to it with the judge. Or she'll have dumped him by then.

It would take months to get back to court, hopefully she will be sick of him by then.

Smile and nod, say nothing, keep a note of everything.

There is not a chance in hell someone with grown up children wants to be a DSD 50% of the time (I'm sure your DCs are lovely, but she's done with raising kids I'm sure).

So just smile and nod and wait for him to take you to court to get the contact changed. It will never happen.

Frustrating and stressful as hell for you though

Apparently her 25 year old lives there

Just tell him he needs it to go back to court to get the order amended

I'm not telling him jack shit, he can work it out for himself, he makes all this noise at the weekend and then we hear nothing. I'm trying to just ignore it for the bollocks it is.

OMG what a nutcase! how will he get the children to school when he lives an hour away? how ridiculous!

Just ignore him and i seriously cannot imagine this current victim agreeing to bring up your 3 children (as lovely as i'm sure they are) whilst he goes away to work - or at any other time really.

I can't see the court agreeing to a 2 hour round trip for school every day they're with him. And they'll take into account the 12 and 14 year olds feeling on it.

Let him take you to court.
My ex kept saying he wanted them 50/50 then when he realised he actually had to have them 50/50 he said actually he could only have them one night every other weekend

If it does got to court Cafcass will lend a lot of weight to opinion of 12 year old and 14 year old.

So how would the bedrooms be decorated? To suit the children who are there "50% of the time" or to suit the university students?

Smile and nod, Brummie, it's a pipedream and your two older children would also have the right to refuse this arrangement.

He's been chasing me today for £1600 I'm meant to be giving him under a consent order that's not been sealed yet. Maybe she's kicked him out already ☺

If her kids finish uni and want to come back - what happens then???

Well exactly hardly going to say no is she