I'm supposed to be alright now

[babycow38]

Just wanted to know if anyone else feels the same, I love my family, I have two girls that are good a partner that is happy in his life I think, but I am so, so unhappy, for as long as I can think of I have wanted to move from the area I was born and brought up in, it holds painful memories and going to work on the bus this morning I just couldn't take it anymore, but my partner won't leave,my children are two years off leaving school, my partner says he will not get another Job , but I am dying inside, I need to leave my hometown because I need to be free of the bad memories, and also I feel suffocated in this town

I feel exactly the same as you op
I can't leave until my son goes to uni (4 yrs) and that's if he even goes!
I am so desperate to move and feel so stuck :(

Is work the only reason your H won't leave?

Oh thank you for responding Jules, no I think my oh is happy here, I have to make the decision whether to leave him or not, heat breaking

That sounds horrible OP.

Have you explained how you feel to your DP? Maybe if he realised how unhappy you feel & you would even consider leaving him to get away from your home town it would make him realise how serious it is.

Really sad situation.
Would you take the kids with you? If they're 2 years off leaving school does that mean they're doing exams?

Are you sure that moving will actually solve the problem? Have you considered/had counselling or therapy for dealing with these memories?

Thing is, wherever we go, we take ourselves - it may be that fixating on where you live and how much you want to leave is getting in the way of coming to terms with the past. I don't know, maybe you're right, and if you were talking about getting away from particular people I could understand it better - but memories? You take those with you.