I've been with DP for many years. Initially it was good but now he makes me miserable.
It's not a recent thing and has been on the cards for a long time. He can be selfish and cruel, for example tonight he brought a takeaway for dinner for just himself and told me if i wanted to eat than I could cook my own dinner. We had planned to have a takeaway and dvd night today all week. He does this fairly often. He does nothing around the house, expects me to wash, cook and tidy for him and throws a strop if his clothes are not clean or dinner is not made for him. He cannot change and i have had enough, i'm not wasting my life in an unsupportive relationship with a manchild.
I work and can support myself financially but we have many financial ties and I don't know where to start. We have a tenancy agreement in both of our names, a joint account in both of our names, a loan in his name, and I have a savings account in only my name.
I need an exit plan before I tell him as he can be incredibly loud, angry and emotionally manipulative in an arguement and I need to know in my own head what I am doing so he cannot talk me down and convince me otherwise. How do i remove myself from our joint account? Can I call up and just remove myself? I fear he will max out the overdraft as soon as I tell him and do not want to be liable. He's got previous for stupid snap of the moment decisions. I also want to stay in our house. I've brought all the furniture, maintain the house, and don't feel I should leave when he just lives here. Anyone think the LL would be inclined to reissue a contract to just me if I prove he shouldn't be trusted with her house?
Sorry for the ramble. Feeling very low and lost right now and don't know where to start.