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Did I say it was amicable???

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Ulysees · 24/02/2007 09:52

Oh no, not now!!! Dh now realises we're moving out and is being a total B@$t@rd
All I said to ds1 was pack away some of your favourite things and he turned into a shit. Then he started saying 'why take all his favourite things when they'll be here half the time?' He works FT so how does he work that one out?
I didn't think I'd say this but I don't like him at all anymore. Last week we were friends.
I said to him this is bad for the boys but he doesn't give a shit.

Am good mates with MIL so when he goes downstairs going to ring her and get my side in, albeit subtley They're staying at MILs tonight so need to say something before he paints me as a right B..ch.

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rachelhill · 24/02/2007 16:55

Oops! Just smile, say "whatever" and mentally plot his bloody demise

Seriously, kids can get attached to new favourites or you can swipe them when he's not looking!

How soon are you going? Can you go quicker before things deteriorate even more?

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Ulysees · 25/02/2007 12:42

Hi rachel, I'm looking at a house tomorrow at 4pm so think of me!!

I'll go asap as it's for the best. It'll be the first time I've been on my own (by that I mean only adult). I went straight from mam's aged 21 to living with dh.

I'm growing up at last at the ripe old age of 38!!

dh isn't a bad man just didn't show me any physical affection. Hopefully once he's accepted it we can be friends. We have a lot in common so I hope so?

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Ulysees · 25/02/2007 12:43

Oh and MIL was good with me. FIL is the same as dh so she knows what it's like. Told me 40 years ago she decided to just put up with it and concentrate everything on the kids Says she doesn't blame me and we'll be happier apart and hopes dh will realise this soon.

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pinkchampagne · 25/02/2007 21:27

Good luck, Ulysees! I am in the process of buying a house on my own for the first time too! Feels very grown up doesn't it?!

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Ulysees · 26/02/2007 08:08

yes it does Hope it all goes smoothly for you hun xx

Seeing mine 4pm today so think about me. Hope nobody else wants it?

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Tortington · 26/02/2007 08:26

good luck xxxxx

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Ulysees · 26/02/2007 08:32

cheers xx

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pinkchampagne · 26/02/2007 23:25

How did you get on, Ulysees?

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Ulysees · 27/02/2007 08:24

This is what's happened so far, thanks for asking PC

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Ulysees · 02/03/2007 08:06

We're getting on fine now Hope it lasts as we've only ever argued properly once in 17 years and that was last Saturday. Not saying this is normal but that was us. Probably not a good sign but we did last a long time by todays standards I suppose.

He's being supportive, even being my guarantor for the house. No arguments about buying new stuff and what I'm taking. Although he hasn't checked joint account lately Still he's keeping the house so he can't grumble.

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