OP, I am really sorry for that. I can see why you are so frustrated and angry. As has been stated upthread, there are legal options in the form of a Judicial Review or civil claim, but I imagine your solicitor is advising you in respect of these.
SummerBreezer, thanks for that info. I'm a little appalled that debunking rape myths doesn't haporn far sooner during a trial, though! An equivalent Judge's "oprning statement" or owt, for instance.
They do, in certain cases. The judge, if they think it is appropriate, can give the direction prior to the complainant giving their evidence. It is a fine balance though - the last thing you want is for the jury to think that the judge is "on the prosecution's side" before any evidence is given - it will make life even harder for the complainant. It is not perfect, but the court process itself is changing to take account of these things.
The essential problem we have is this (and this is not in relation to you or your case, OP - just a general comment).
The cornerstone of our justice system is that someone is innocent until the jury are sure of guilt - nothing less than being sure will do
The very nature of sexual offences is that they often occur behind closed doors, and very often within a relationship that was sexual - either before or after the offence was committed.
The CPS must decide if there is a "real prospect" of conviction, they cannot, and indeed should not, bring every complaint to court. Their job is not to believe the complainant - it is to weigh up all the evidence to see if there is a real prospect of a jury being sure of guilt.
On the other side of that, you have a victim who knows what happened because they experienced it. It is a difficult difficult area, and I do not envy the CPS their job in this regard. They are onto a loser whichever way they look at it.
That is not to say that complainants are not treated poorly by the CPS and police - and I am sad to see the stories in this thread and it is dreadful that such things go on. I wish you all the best in the future 