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What would you do in this situation?

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StarrySky23 · 13/01/2017 13:23

Hello it's my 1st time posting. I was hoping someone could help with my situation.

Basically, whenever my DP and I have a serious argument or it gets to the point where I've had enough- I try to talk to him and tell him I don't want to he in this unhealthy relationship any longer and we need to start talking about what happens now. We have 1 child together also.
Anyway, when I start talking about us breaking up he starts tickling me to the point where I can't breathe from laughter. I am trying to be serious with my expressions to show him I'm not joking but he will start kissing or licking my face (sounds weird) and because I'm laughing he will then act like nothing has happened. He refuses to even consider us breaking up and then forcefully makes me laugh. This confuses me as I feel sad and want to break up but the next second I'm laughing.

I keep dreaming of a fresh start and getting out of this relationship but he says it's not even an option.

What would you do if you were me?

Thanks x

OP posts:

Thinkingofausername1 · 14/01/2017 14:32

Hi op. You've given him a chance and he is not making any effort. I agree with others about packing his bag again; and if he gets violent call the police.

BlueberryGateaux · 14/01/2017 14:40

He's an abusive wanker. Next time he bashes your door down phone the police, its a criminal offence and the HA will charge him.

memyselfandaye · 14/01/2017 14:46

A punch or a kick in the nuts should make him stop.

I also think this is an incredibly creepy thing to do. It's so weird it sounds almost like a fetish.

aquamarina100 · 14/01/2017 15:33

He tickles you and licks you to shut down the conversation in a funny/light way. Its also confusing... Its just so manipulative.

I think he could have the potential to try other tactics if you were to insist it was over. The fact he's kicked your door in says it all.

I was in an abusive relationship with a similar type of man, when I look back there was so much stuff he did that was just a 'joke' but was controlling and abusive. I never told anyone because I thought it was silly stuff. Its taken me years to really understand how abusive my ex was.

Please get away from this man, contact women's aid for advice on how to end this relationship safely.

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