How would this make you feel and what would you do about it?

[yourwayeveryday]

DH is more of a talker than me. He witters on incessantly at times and seems to want my attention a lot. However, as soon as I begin to talk he appears to have no interest whatsoever. He thinks it's me being sensitive.
But how would you feel if your DH began tapping, leg shaking, yawning, twitching and more annoyingly of all, finishing off your sentences to what he thinks you might say next? And generally getting it wrong. It's driving me mad.
I have started getting in a twist when I'm talking to him now, I stutter, forget my trail of thought and forget what I'm saying in anticipation of his agitated behaviour and speaking over me and finishing off my sentences with the wrong thing.
Sometimes when we have challenging or important things to discuss , I could cry. What can I do about this? DH knows he does it but forgets himself time and time again.

I could have written your post op!
DH said he's unaware that he's yawning, stretching, humming while I'm talking also cutting me off mid sentence. I'm not quite sure as since I mentioned it he doesn't seem to do any of the above anymore. He has new ones like hugs me or kisses me while I'm saying something so I stop talking!

He would also argue that I don't listen to him. I don't a lot of the time. He is constantly wittering on when I'm wanting a bit of quiet time or when I'm trying to engage with DC.

It sounds like neither of you really has any interest in what the other says a lot of the time. Do you think that's a fair assessment?

Yes Pocket Savior, I would. But I would say the main difference is that DH dominates most of theconversation between us.

Agree with all PP its a lack of respect. If you want to work on it, what my husband and I do when we have something important to discuss/are arguing is literally take it in turns to talk. I say everything I want to and then say "right, I'm done talking for now, what do you want to say about this?" and even when I feel like contradicting something he is saying or shouting over him I know he will give me my turn back to talk when he has had his say, does that make sense?

He sounds like a fucking nightmare.

What are the positive things about this relationship? They would have to be vast and manifold to have any chance of counterbalancing his lack of interest and respect.

Interest and respect are a large chunk of what comprises really loving someone. If they aren't there, it isn't quite love.

Ok this sounds corny, but my DH uses it with a colleague who is known for being a nightmare at talking over other people. When you're having an important conversation, you use some object as the 'talking stick' - only the person holding it is allowed to speak. It might bring home to him how much he is interrupting you and dominating the conversation.

Then when you've finished your sentence you hand it to the other person.

This sounds more than him being rude. He seems to have little understanding of social communication . His conversations are one way. He'll talk to you but not interested in or doesn't see the purpose of
Your response. He is aware this is not the acceptable way to behave and when you were first together probably worked hard to act how he thought he should but it wasn't sustainable. The wittering on may be about topics that are his special interests . Would he turn a conversation round to talking about them or not recognise that people aren't interested in what he's talking about.
His fidgeting could be a sensory difficulty. His sense of movement could be dulled so he needs to move more to feel normal.
This will not change. You need to decide how you see your future - if you can live with it or not. Will it effect yours and your children's mental wellbeing.

It sounds like very hard work.

I get like this during manic and hypomanic episodes and talk at people and they don't get a word in edgeways. At the time I'm feeling awesome and as if what I say is obviously extremely important, it's that high and the euphoria and grandiosity that comes with it. I just feel that I have to get it out. Nevermind the fact that I'm just jumping from one topic to another and not making mush sense. I constantly do the leg jiggling and fidgeting. To be honest, I end up getting irritated whith people and they just seem very slow. People have asked me if I was on coke or speed before.

This is one of the things that DH find the most wearing about my illness. At least it's episodic and I can go and get some meds for it - and I often feel ashamed once I come down and realise I've been a dick. I'm not saying he's bipolar, but it's worth considering if he also has periods of depression too. ADHD could be a possibility. However, he could just be a bit of a nob who isn't showing you much respect.

I can totally see how this must be really annoying.