Am I right to end this?

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My now ex partner said we had to go on a break but once my parents apologised profusely (long story, cultural issue, my parents made an error that disrespected his culture and this made his parents advise him to end it with me) I could come back! Hmmmm! I have to move out by the end of the week. It's his flat.

I do still love him, he can be very sweet and cute but...

1. Constant criticism - wrong hand-wash, wrong loo roll, why don't I cook more etc
2. Nothing I do is ever enough
3. Sulks if he doesn't get sex and masturbates furiously when I am trying to sleep.
4. Gets drunk a lot and gets angry and loud
5. Controlling behaviour - looks at my texts and cries if I moan about him to friends. If I try and calmly explain my issues I have with him he gets angry/defensive/cries
6. Trying to catch me out "what did you say, what did they say etc" in relation to what I say to people about him
7. I haven't met his family - due to cultural reasons. We are not engaged so I cannot meet them. It's been almost 4 years. He spent Christmas apart from me.

I need to leave and not come back right?

I think you get the gist from PPs now but just in case...

RUNNNNNN! xx

Like the wind....

Need directions to those Hills OP?

I want to know why people think being treated like a princess is a good thing? Surely being treated like an equal is what you want?

In any case, OP, just run from this person.

He seems to think treating you like a princess (a $$$ thing) is a contract for you to put up with him treating you like crap (a relationship thing). Nope.

Move out before the weekend, if at all possible.

Number 3 is offensive...hope he doesn't hurt himself, not

Any one on that list would be a deal breaker. But wow, you will be overwhelmed with relief next week. How will you celebrate?

Yes, Bitoutofpractice, I thought the same. 'Frenziedly' i think.

Run far away, OP.

Run OP Like shit through a goose.

Gosh. That's quite a list. Without a doubt, run for the hills. How do people like this even end up partnered up? He must have a serious dating game face.

Was this arranged by your parents OP?

I think it's clear what the general consensus is on here. Lots of potential partners can be sweet and cute some of the time, but this guy sounds like a fucking nightmare.

You're already split up, at his behest.

This isn't even a case of 'should you break up with him' - just tell your family that it obviously wasn't right, and you can find someone else when you want to.

I mean, you can also mention the drunken rants and furious masturbation to them if you want, that might make it easier.

He already left. Just don't accept him back, as you would be mad to.

What culture is he from?

Fuck-ing-hell.

Perhaps you should demand an apology from his parents for raising such a rat bag? Seriously...crying, wanking like a duracell bunny when you're trying to sleep and whinging about which bog roll and handwash you buy???? Get out of that place and his screwed up life as quickly as you can. I sincerely hope this is a wind up post!!

OMG, Run like hell away from this guy. Why would you even consider staying with him??

He has a very good job and keeps telling me how he treats me like a princess and takes me on holiday and out for posh meals...

Sounds to me like he's 'grooming' you.
Dazzle you with materialistic stuff to make you feel bonded to him, so then he can use that to manipulate you into doing what he wants.

He's not going to marry you - he's already shown you that.
Guys like him will fuck an english woman but still want a virginal, housetrained and obedient woman as a wife.

what exactly was the mistake that insulted his culture to such an extreme extent? Sounds more like amateur dramatics to me

I've moved out! He keeps texting me saying as soon as my parents apologise I can move back in! I won't be doing that.

I prefer not to say which culture but he is of north Indian descent.

Basically - when he was away on a family holiday in India (I wasn't invited) he had just bought a house. I was left with a mattress and a beanbag armchair, no curtains and a heating system that was failing.

He refused to let me call British Gas. My parents came up to bring some of my stuff from their house and stayed overnight. He was VERY angry that they came to "his" house when he parents should have been the first to come and bless the house.

I apologised and so did my parents. But it wasn't enough. He wanted a phone call, handwritten letters to his parents to beg forgiveness and grovelling.

Told me to leave "his house" then kept crying that I was leaving and trying to make me feel bad.

Oh. My. God.

I hope you have told him to fottfsof.

I know it's silly but I'm still sad - even though the house stuff was the final straw and I've been unhappy for months. I do miss the house and area, I've moved out of London now and gone back home. But living with a close friend and not my parents - but they are only 30 mins away now.

I am a bit lazy around the house and I do get grumpy but I know I don't deserve any of what he did to me.

Yikes I'm glad he's out of your life. Pat yourself on the back for getting rid of that nutcase.