Tell me what you did with photos of your ex

[Overthinker2016]

I'm struggling with this. Have binned some and kept others (generally those where we seem to be having a nice time, ones at family events or where we are with other friends).

However a bit of me feels unresolved about it. By keeping some I mean. It ended badly and have had NC for about 4 years. Have no desire to ever speak to him again and look back on my time with him with very mixed feelings. We did have some nice times but he hurt me badly. It would be neater in my mind to just chuck all the photos but essentially erasing ten years of my life if I do that.

New bf moving in, so clearing out. No kids so don't need to keep anything for the benefit of children.

What did you do with yours? If you had wedding photos did you keep them?

Im not bitter so I've kept them for the dc. Looking at them wouldn't affect me one way or the other though

I'd like to bin the wedding albums as I did with cards/love letters etc as ExH was a 3-MN thread nightmare and he's tainted what used to be fond memories.

But it's 20+ years together/history, they cost a bomb & maybe the children would like to see them one day. The kids are the main reason though.

However I resent the space they take up and want to yell at my celluloid self: 'Don't do it!'

I think he fucked me over too badly for me to look back at our time together in a neutral way. I feel jaded about it.

But that could change with even more time and then I might regret throwing away all those photos of my 20's.

I've kept them al in a box in the loft. He may be an abusive and horrible man, but he is the children's father. He hasn't seen the children in over a year and they are forgetting what he looks like.

Both of my children are the image of their father. One day they will be fascinated to see how much they look like him.

As time passes, it gets easier to look at the photos. Last month, I gave my children s book of pictures with daddy in, and they spent ages flicking through it together.

In a box with the various other photos I never look at.

Rose I love "geese destinations"!

I never chuck pictures out. They're my memories.

Binned & deleted

I have absolutely nothing, his stuff, or any pictures at all.

I binned them all except a few of my ex with ds..

However MIL gave me a calendar once with pictures of EX with my DS....I really don't know if she thought I would put it up on the wall..IT went straight in the bin

Packed them in a "memory box" along with loads of other shit.

Burned them all, including all the wedding photos, on a celebratory bonfire the day my decree absolute came through. My best friend and I sat watching them burn while drinking champagne. Yes they were pics of "happy" times but I have endless memories of the terrible way he treated me and so they all seemed like lies. It felt incredibly freeing

"ours" are all digital. I still have a copy, there are literally hundreds, on a backup, somewhere. I'll keep them, because I'm not bitter, they're memories, early pics of the kids etc, and I don't have the time or patience to go through them!

My ex seems to have eviscerated any trace of me, to the extent of even removing things "we" bought (washer, fridge freezer, changing her car almost immediately etc).

I don't see the point. Memories will always be there, you can't run away from yourself, no matter how hard you try.

I kept one formal wedding photo for the kids in case they ever asked to see it and burned the rest. I also went through our photo albums and took out all the ones with me in and left the albums for him and OW. I'm sure they didn't last long :)

Kept some wedding and other photos for the children and binned the rest.

Photos of ex boyfriends were binned (with the exception of one....we got back together 15 years later, after my divorce). All my wedding photos have gone away in a box for the kids. I've not opened the box since I left him.

I left all photo's behind. I think they are in his loft. His GF found a bag of stuff under the bed tho, and gave it to me. It was a bag of hundreds of letters we had exchanged when he was in London and I was at home. Plus my wedding veil. My DH took them to the tip I've always wondered if he read some letters before he tipped them

Kept them all - they are part of the history that made me who I am today.

Photos of ex boyfriends were binned (with the exception of one....we got back together 15 years later, after my divorce). All my wedding photos have gone away in a box for the kids. I've not opened the box since I left him.

You and an ex got back together after 15 years apart??

Me and an ex got back together after a year & I thought that was long!

Regarding my recent ex I kept them but only for our LO to have. Previous boyfriend i had no children with i threw them away but kept the teddy he gave me but only because i love teddy bears and its sitting in my collection lol

I haven't kept anything, no pictures no nothing...it's all been long deleted.

I do sit and think about pictures now, couldn't I just take them off fb?? I know my son may want to see pictures of me and my ex together you know (seeing mummy and daddy together) but It hurt too much to keep them.

I couldn't bear the thought of knowing I still had anything of him, I've his fan in my loft and I'm itching to bin it but keep forgetting!

You and an ex got back together after 15 years apart?? shock

We did quark. Met up after I separated from ExH. Got a DS together now and getting married later in the year.

We did quark. Met up after I separated from ExH. Got a DS together now and getting married later in the year

Maybe it's ALWAYS ended badly in my relationships that me and exes haven't EVER got back together.

I did with one however we were 16 when we split, within a year I hadn't even remembered why!

However the ones after that all ended quite badly, I don't think I've ever ended a relationship on "good terms".

So reconciling in the future wouldn't happen.

I like to start afresh and bin absolutely everything....however i did keep my wedding book and photos, I just can't remember where I put them to bin them lol. I know a lot will say I'm wiping out my past but I don't want to hold on to it.

If you don't have kids there's no reason to keep anything.. every time I've split up with someone in the past all pics are deleted and erased from social media - don't need to be seeing that it cringes me out that I was with them in the first place!!

I left them behind when I left him.

I haven't got rid of any because we have two children and not only are some of them family and friends pics, but he's their dad. I don't have any out on display but the kids have some their bedrooms. I wanted to reach a level of acceptance which I think I have, so although I was very unhappy a lot of the time and it ended terribly, it was over 20 years of my life and I don't want to wipe it out. Trying to forget it would cause even more pain I think.
Everybody is different though, so obviously, do whatever you're comfortable with. If that means getting rid of them all, go ahead!

Burned them in a fire! I burned everything in a fire. It was beautiful. And there was another one that went in the shredder but that wasn't as fun or warm...

If you had children together I'd keep them fir the children.

If not....have a bonfire!