Hi,
My name is Daniel, I'm 34. I'm in a relationship with someone. She is 30 years of age. We have been together for 3 years but for some time now, possibly over a year, I have been unhappy. She wants children, marriage etc but I cant put my finger on what it is that's making me unhappy. Sometimes I'm happy with her, but I don't think the spark is there anymore?
My worry is that I want children. I suppose I always wanted children in my early 30's and I wanted to be having my last child around now. I always thought that life would turn out differently for me. If I was to split up with my girlfriend, I wouldn't mind meeting someone with a child already (as a father figure isn't necessarily a biological dad) but ideally I would want one of my own and I'm worrying/obsess that I will be to old.
I know I'm not old now. I get that, its later on in life I think/worry about. I suppose looking at my parents they have now seen their children grow up and having children (grandchildren from my brother). They had children when they were 30/31 and 32/33. I want to see my children grow up, I want to be there for them like my mum and dad are for me, like there mum and dad were for them...I guessed I always inspired to be like them too.
Is there anyone out there that are in a similar situation to me? Do I force myself to feel happy? Stay in the relationship I'm in with the girl that loves me very much or do I continue my search for "the one"?
Reposts on here would be great but anyone who has been in my situation that I can speak to who has been through the worry would be a massive help...