Ok so tonight dp fell asleep on the sofa with his phone infront of him ...It's not been a great year in this 6 days already he has lost his job and was tired today after couple of interviews. Soo a message flashes up on his phone...A woman saying she's not doing anything just waiting by the phone for him?????!!! ... I picked up his phone and began to read through it which I never do. There are 3 diff women conversations ....Ranging from meeting up, him saying hello sexy and then later saying it was nice to see her she looked good but tired and he had sent her a pic of the lamp in our bedroom, and his hair today. Another one he was asking if she needs a massage. And one was thanking him for gifts. Also he was asking them if they were in town today. ....So I'm sure u agree it sounds like he is cheating or at least trying to with several women. When I wake him up with a zillion questions, He shuts down on me .... He suffers anxiety anyway so am used to that. He eventually snatched the phone from me, promised not to delete the messages and later deleted messenger. I wish I had been wise enough to send them to myself or something so I had the proof infront of me instead of it being a big heart thumping blur but I remember what I saw that can't be denied. He wanted to leave the house .... I convinced him to go to bed as leaving will only make things worse and he can tell me gradually what's going on but as I suspected he's then playing on the limitations of what I know from these few conversations ... At work we give the upstairs workers left overs ...This is what she means by gifts. ...Not giving me a straight answer to where he met up with this past 'friend' he is calling sexy & sending pics. So now I can't sleep ... He is but I can't and I don't know what to do next .... All I know is I need to know the truth for myself and my DD. Sorry just needing to rant ....Feeling numb.