cheating with escort

[yourname00]

I've been dating this man for about 2 months now who is divorced, well going through one (not finalized). He seems like a really great guy but I am concerned about something I recently found out. He had cheated on his wife with an escort. I think it may have been twice, but not sure..

I really don't know how to feel about this. It's kind of a deal breaker for me but perhaps he was going through things i don't quite understand. I'd like to know how others would take this.

It would be a deal breaker for me. Personally, I absolutely wouldn't want to be in a relationship with a man that views women and sex as commodities. The fact that he has cheated on his wife would be another serious red flag for me.

Hmm. Well it saddens and disappoints me when people make judgements about the sex industry without having any experience of working in it.

I wouldn't be with a man who would buy sex. For all sorts of reasons and I think it does absolutely clearly tell you what he thinks of women.

it saddens and disappoints me when people make judgements about the sex industry without having any experience of working in it

People make judgements and form opinions about things they have no direct experience of all the time.

Saying that only people who have worked in the sex industry are allowed to have opinions on it is rather extreme and limiting.

Most importantly, in the case of being in a relationship, you are allowed to choose not to date someone for any reason whatsoever. You are never obliged to date someone.

In a very practical sense you have the choice to date men who dont use sex workers and dont cheat on a partner. I think especially for a longer term relationship those men are a much better choice and I would ditch current BF and make that choice for myself

You really would even remotely consider being in a relationship with a man who pays for whores? You really believe he's just going to stop or it was a one off? This is who he is. Run like hell and don't look back.

Well it saddens and disappoints me when people make judgements about the sex industry without having any experience of working in it.

I'd better jack in my Friends of the Earth membership then: having had no experience of the oil industry, I'm in no position to critique it.

So we are down to using the word 'whore' are we? How derogatory.

Why is selling sex any worse than selling your time to a corporation? Or being a plumber and sticking your hand down people's toilets?

I've changed my mind.
At first I thought he'd been honest with you and let's face it lots of men visit sex workers.
Now I think no, dump him.
It's a deal a breaker for you.
Remember that.
Don't compromise on your boundaries op.

Prostitutes and escorts are exactly the same thing. There is no difference.

Back to the original point though...for me it would depend on HOW he told Me? Was he remorseful regarding the situation and accepting of blame 100%? Was there an ounce of his making excuses for his behaviour?

Also I don't believe every man who has paid for sex hates women and doesn't have any respect for them. What about the guys that buy drinks at the bar and expect sex back from the woman? Surely they are worse?

So he pays for sex and cheats on his wife? What a catch.

If any of my friends paid for sex, I'd consider them weird and ditch them.
I find it creepy.

@yourname00 be the one sensible woman on this planet, and contact his ex to find out why their relationship ended.

There lies the most truthful and consistent information there is.