Ok, without wanting to put anything identifying in here I'm a single mum and it's difficult to get out much. Not sure I have time for a relationship or even want one, but haven't had sex in years so want to set something up.
All I remember from the limited one-time sex I had with guys years ago is how I didn't get anything out of it. The guy would, inevitably. And he wouldn't necessarily even notice that I didn't. So I don't want that.
The ideal situation would be a friend with benefits. But I don't want to mess up any current friendships/social life, or have anyone around my kids, at my house etc.
I work full time so there could be some opportunity to meet someone in the middle of the day but not much. Could have a babysitter at night but not often. So, probably at looking at going to someone else's house or a hotel.
How do I set this up without posting something in OLD that results in being inundated by replies from sleazy men? I'm quite picky which is why nothing has happened yet. I've said no to a number of male 'friends' who propositioned me repeatedly after becoming a LP - wasn't in the right frame of mind, didn't want to rock the boat, didn't want to perpetuate any stereotypes men have about single mothers, didn't want to have sex with them when I wasn't attracted to them.
This clearly isn't about conversation, but I need to be able to be interested in whoever it is first. And feel safe.
Advice - has anyone achieved this?
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just sex - how to set it up so it works
user1483524971 · 04/01/2017 15:19
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