Apologies if this echoes other threads too much...
I just don't know whether this marriage is worth fighting for - we have been married for almost 10 years and have 2 DS (2 and 6 yo). DH is highly intelligent and has the melancholic personality to go with it - for the last 6 years at least he has been so low and angry all the time. I realise his behaviour is related to his MH issues, but after years of being shouted at (and now the kids are getting it) I am just exhausted! He has never been physically violent but the constant walking on eggshells and trying to predict his mood is hard. He refuses to talk sensibly about 'us' and goes into childish 'woe is me' mode or alternatively 'you started it' etc mode if I try.
He now complains I am not interested in him sexually, but he is like Jekyll and Hyde, so I can't really relax around him any more.
Of course to add to this he is extremely lazy around the house and can't be bothered to spend time with the kids as he is so busy worrying about things like work. I work part time (2 days a week - for my sanity! I am not a SAHM as too impatient myself with the poor DC's!) and can work more when youngest is in school, but am frightened at the thought of going it alone, let alone the effect it might have on DH's MH (and more importantly DCs)
Is this a 'normal' hard phase of marriage?! Do I just need to keep trying and ride it out or am I deluding myself that it could change? I feel now like I am trying to 'change him' but also that when we first met he was so much happier and carefree and it could all be depression that's doing this, so he could still improve!