Eurgh.....horrible message, just needed to vent

[stubbornstains]

Just needed to get this one off my chest, so that it doesn't have me tossing and turning all night.

I had an internet date 2 nights ago, and thought he was....mmmm....OK, decent-ish bloke, but not quite my type. (Plus, he blew vape smoke in my face. Ick).

He seemed pretty keen, but I'd kind of decided I didn't want to see him again by the end of the evening, so we parted without saying much. I was considering sending him a message apologising and wishing him all the best though, but he'd implied he was messaging other people too, so I thought, on reflection, he'd probably get over it PDQ.

Now he's sent me a message calling me a "fucking bitch", saying "he had his tongue up my arse all evening" (probably why I felt increasingly uncomfortable) and inviting me to fuck off etc.etc.....Now he's deleted his account, so I can't even respond (probably for the best, mind).

My feathers are ruffled. What a shit last happening of the year .

Was going to suggest Bye Felipe but see I've been beaten to it!

Sadly men being abusive when they've been rejected isn't too uncommon and before anyone says 'yeah but not all men' ... I know not all men but enough men for it to be a problem.

Oh. He sounds more down on himself & insecure than anything else. I'd feel sorry for him if I were you. Leave it in 2016. 2017 will be better 🍾🥂

Yes, I was impressed with "Bye Felipe" (just had a look ). Think it's worth an upload!

What worries me is that, although I didn't think he was right for me, I thought he was....mostly....an OK and nice person - so perhaps my twat radar isn't working quite well enough??

Or this could, possibly, reinforce my pet theory: having been in a couple of abusive relationships, the last one with somebody who is, still, super nice 95% of the time, I strongly feel that red flags don't, always, present the way that people think they do. They're sometimes a lot more subtle.

Or.....time to find the adjustable wrench and have another crack at my twat radar???

He didn't see any insults from you.

He knew you were about to give him the brush-off and raced to get in first. And he had to make it as horrible as he could.

Tosser.

I would take heart from the fact that your instincts have been validated. Good call.

I wonder if he sent this to the wrong person.

Either way - feel proud of yourself that you have good instincts (knowing you didn't want to see him again)

bye felipe - terrifiying if you are about to step into online dating but cathartic if you have encountered a horrible man like the op has.

It's not you OP - it's alll him.

Ah, he liked you, felt inferior to you in some way possibly to do with grammar, could tell you didn't like him, is generally full of self-hate, and is probably drunk so felt it appropriate to pass that hate your way. Nob.
Never mind! Think you can be sure he'd have made a rotten partner and not much fun, so no loss! Laugh into 2017 and definitely don't lose sleep over it

I like that he's got that condition where people put a kiss at the end of every message (unless that was his name and you changed it to x?). "Fuck you x" is quite special.

I'd report him to the dating site, even though he's deleted his profile. I'm assuming sending messages like that breaks their Ts and Cs?

You've dodged a bullet. What a wanker.

It was only one date, stubborn.

And he was on his best behaviour (hence the tongue up arse comment) and you still didn't like him enough to want a second date.

I'd say your twat radar is just fine.

Oh no, I think it was intended for me chocolate!

But thank you vipers, for helping me lick my wounds and feel better about it all....onwards and upwards eh! xxxx

Going to bed now, will see the New Year tomorrow

Did he mention why it was his previous wife GF whoever chucked him out;?

I wasn't sure I could report him as he's deleted his profile, tribpot. I'll give it a try tomorrow though.

It's a magnificent end to the year. I've said it before and shall again: If only all wankbadgers would announce themselves as succinctly and promptly as this one.m

justaboy- "her children split us up". (Adult children living at home, but still caused an internal from me).

What an idiot!

And what a dignified attitude you are displaying OP - well done.

Oh, and forget OLD it is one of the very worst ways of meeting decent human beings. Speed dating, OTOH, is great - minimal emotional commitment (until you know whether you want to commit!) relaxed and fun in a way that meeting some random stranger for a possibly extremely uncomfortable evening can never be.

OLD sites are inhabited by a cross section of weirdos, time-wasters and idiots like this one - apart from your good self OP, of course!

Winwin. What a weirfo.

What a freak! Bullet cleanly dodged! Blah!!!

This

Bloody hell, OP, real bullet dodged there! Onwards and upwards in 2017, though!

Your knobhead raidar was spot on, well done!!