Inapropriate comments

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Right, this is the last one, I promise.

As I said in my last thread me and DP went out for a meal on saturday night. We decided to walk home but to do this we needed to walk through a VERY rough area...a road inparticular which is known for drug dealers, race riots, football riots etc...

As we're walking I'm trying to avoid making eye contact with the drunks and prostitutes etc! DP, not familiar with the area asks why I'm walking so fast, I tell him about the area.

He quickly works out that they are is full of asylum seekers and other 'non English' people and the english people that are then tend to be the football thugs and prostitutes.

Remember we had been drinking but were certainly not drunk.

He then says quietly "so I guess shouting out white supremecy stuff wouldn't be a good idea around here then?" he said it as a joke, I didn't find it funny and just replied "no".

He then starts saying "white is right" etc laughing trying to wind me up knowing that I was uncomfortable with the area.

Neither of us are racist, he didnt say it to offend anyone, he was trying to scare me basically as I was already on edge but am I right in thinking that this was an extremely irresponsible and stupid thing to do even if it was for a laugh or am I over-reacting?

I told him to shut up at the time and made it obvious I didn't find it funny and he apologised but was still laughing afterwards.

Sorry for the many threads on him today, It was just an odd weekend and I'm just piecing things together now...I'd like opinions on this thread without the other stuff influencing anyones feelings on it...

Thanks again off to pick the kids up now, I'll be back on later.

Yes dry slap is tres painful although not as painful as with a towel, that might be a better option honestly though what a plank, I am surprised his mother doesnt still wipe his arse.....................urgh she doesn't does she [vomit emoticon]

Does he shout "Finished!" when on the loo?

lol

Thanks for the replies on this and the other threads.

The meal was on saturday, take-away and lager on friday (had a death in the family this week, wanted to take my mind off things).

I suppose I have got myself into a bad situation, I know he's not right for me, I don't have feelings for him, I don't respect him, he does make my skin crawl, he would be more suited to a little 17 year old (as most of his ex's have been) and everything he does irritates me.

However I have promised the kids 4 times now that we would go on holiday, everytime that promise has been broken...I can't do that again.

I can't tell him he can't go as he's laid half of the money down. I KNOW this was a mistake, I just wanted a bit of clarification that he is indeed as annoying as I make him out to be, I'm not exactly known for my tolerance.

Anyway Ill shut up about him now, thanks again

Another very amusing thread on dp bs!!!

In all seriousness get rid of him. He's 26 and acts like a 3 year old. Why anyone would want to date this man i do not understand and you are a mother, would you let your ds's turn out like him?

Ooo i can see you on Jeremy Kyle!!!!

BTW i've just read some of your other threads and tbh i think you have other things that are more important to think about at the moment. I'd imagine dp just adds to the stress of life

And in answer to the actual thread yes this was stupid behaviour on his part and my dh would have received a serious earful when we got home. I'd imagine your dp would've run to his room having a tantrum if you told him what you actually thought though

Stay with him. He's a brilliant role model for your children, a considerate partner for you and nothing like a child whatsoever.

And don't come crying to me if he bats you round the head because you won't let him play Scalextric.

Seriously - and I can't say this often enough, it seems, ditch him. Go and join some sort of club, a dating website, whatever - just make some new friends and stop relying on this pathetic creature for company.

Sorry, crossed posts with your last one.

PLEASE see if you can find a way out of this holiday. Perhaps he can go with his mum and she can give you your half of the money, so you can take the children somewhere.

What do they think of him?

When's the holiday?

Can I ask what this man/boy/child/person does for a living??

I'm not using him no, I could've paid for the holiday myself.

The point is, when we first got back together he was trying to show me he'd "changed" and this involved him saying all the right things at the right times...I fell for it, decided he HAD changed and thats when we booked the holiday. Now it's almost paid for and his true colours are coming back.

bS you know what you need to do, I think you're just asking mn'ers to confirm it for you.

Get out of the holiday, take dc's on a £9.50 sun holiday if you have to, they'll love it just as much. Infact even more if dps not there. Cut your losses and run, you know he's not the one for you

OK, then it's clear.

You buy his half of the holiday from him and you take a friend with you (or you go just with the boys).

You HAVE to get this creature out of your life. He is sapping your future - you only get each day once and you're wasting them on this trivia.

PLEASE don't.

His parents have never been out of the country so have no passports, he hasn't even got his sorted out yet, he's more interested in making sure he gets to the shop on time in order to get the latest xbox game...I'm secretely hoping that he doesnt get his passport in time then I'll have to go on my own.

His behviour/lack of pride and motivation have blatently come from his upbringing, it's obvious when he talks about his family.

The kids like him but they don't respect him, they see him as another kid I think.

For a living he works at Halfords

Look, you clearly despise him.

Don't wait for life to happen to you - all this secretly hoping he won't get his act together won't work. He may well, then you'll have to go on holiday with him, which won't be fun for anyone (except him probably).

What if he runs out of money when he's on holiday with you?

Oh, GOD, just DITCH him!

bs i await the 'i've dumped the useless ar**' thread. All will be very happy and you'll get lots of congratulations posts

I agree with hunker 100%

Please sort this out if not for youself then your children.