I have two sons with my ex who left us when they were both very young. He was originally from Calabria. He left us and moved back to Italy and has since started a new family. He hasn't given any financial support and my boys can't even remember him and have only seen a picture of him.
Since he left I have remarried to the love of my life who both my kids call dad and he has adopted them. He has supported them financially and is pretty much their real father.
My ex's mother was a very sweet lady I met her once. She sends cards to the boys and has spoken on the phone although has never met them, she has always wanted to meet them.
She has been diagnosed with a terminal illness and has been asking to see my children (her grandchildren) before she passes away.
So she decided to ring up and I spoke to both her and my ex who have both asked if it is possible that we can visit.
I don't know what to do.
Both my boys have felt the pain of having a father reject them. I don't want it to be more emotionally damaging for them to have to see their father. I sympathise with this poor old lady but I have no idea as to what I should do I haven't told the boys yet.