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Is this cheeky?

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bananasmoothie · 20/02/2007 13:22

Ok, my favourite band are touring in May, I've never seen them live before so I practically begged my DP to come with me and he agreed, even though he doesn't like the band.

Anyway, he will be hiring a car for the weekend to a) get down to my house and b) get to the gig (a different city).

Now, I am the member of the bands official forum kind of thing and the fans are very much a "tight" community, always helping each other out and doing what they can for each other, I've never met any of them but they all seem to know each other or have met up at some point in the past few years via the band.

Thing is, I got talking to a group of them who come from where I live...they asked if I was going to any of the gigs in the upcoming tour and asked if I had room in the car and said they would pitch in for petrol etc...

I didn't bother replying at first but when DP said about hiring the car I messaged them back and said we'd have room for 3 , DP doesn't know.

Was this really cheeky/disrespectful of me considering DP will be paying for the car? is he likely to understand when I spring it on him?

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DetentionGrrrl · 20/02/2007 13:26

i don't see what the issue is- they can chip in and reduce the costs for you.

i'm dying to know what the band is though...

TeeCee · 20/02/2007 13:28

Don't let him pay for the car and let him know what you have offered asap.

Who's the band?

Twiglett · 20/02/2007 13:28

um I think you should ask him what he thinks about it if you were to do this and if he's against it retract your offer asap

sorry I do think you were out of order

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bananasmoothie · 20/02/2007 13:32

The band = The Wildhearts

Thing is I've never had any friends with the same music tastes as me which means that every time a band like this has toured I've never been able to go...I suppose my offer of a lift was an attempt to secure my place in the "fan community" and maybe make some more friends with similar interests, sounds sad I know.

Better go and phone DP.

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ohsmellyjelly · 20/02/2007 13:35

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wartywarthog · 20/02/2007 13:38

think you should have cleared it with him first. i'd ask him now.

WigWamBam · 20/02/2007 13:39

Sorry, but I think you're out of order. I think it was more than cheeky, I actually think it was inconsiderate and rather rude. As he's paying for the car you should have run it by him first, and if he's not happy with the idea then you either pay for the car yourself, or retract your offer.

Tell him what you've done as soon as you can, but be prepared for him not to be happy that you've taken him forgranted. You may well find that if you'd asked him first he would have been fine with it - but not bothering to ask him if it was OK to invite complete strangers to share the car he's paying for may well piss him off enough to make him refuse.

HappyDaddy · 20/02/2007 13:39

You should have asked first, I'm sure you'd be a bit put out if he'd done it to you.

He may be happy if they all chip in though, and it could work out great.

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