Ex h spending time with my family, Aibu?

[BugThePug]

Ex and I have 3 DC 6, 8 and 10.

We divorced 3 years ago and do not get on. I left him. He moved in with my mother while sorting out somewhere permanent to live. My mother and I don't speak as she meddled a lot during our separation and was very disloyal to me.

She says she let him stay so she could see her grandchildren.

They (ex takes DC to my mothers) still now have Sunday lunch together and my brother and his wife sometimes go too. My grandmother, aunt and uncle send him Christmas presents (they only met him once).

It makes me feel bad, is that a normal reaction to this situation?

They don't know him, fallen. He's attended a couple of my Dsis family events with me, and they've been polite in passing, no more than that.

There have been a number of attempts on their part to re-initiate contact and "let bygones be bygones" but I'm content in my life as it is, and see no reason to reopen those wounds. ExH still has regular contact with them and they contact DD through him.

Awful! I hope that you now have lovely new PIL's to compensate! It must be very hard for your DH to see you dealing with that, or is does he just think f* 'em?