Mediation

[tammybear]

I was just reading the other thread about this started by WK, and I didnt want to overtake it so I thought I'd start my own.

As some of you may know, me and exp are still not really seeing eye to eye. I dont trust him to have dd at his house, but I feel like I am being pressurised into doing it. Although we've been split up for about 10 months now, does anyone think its worth while me trying to go through mediation with him to see if we can work something out?

he's coming to see dd next weekend, and so im sure he'll be bringing up the topic of him having dd then

Yes yes yes I would definately try mediation, if your situation is anything as bad as mine. dd will not listen and i would love the idea that there is someone out there who could help us to communicate. Ds has to be top priority but with me anyway i get so wound up during drop off/pick up times and find it extremely hard not to show feelings especially infront of ds.let me know what you decide and how it goes if u like

are they available at weekends though?

tb - you could have overtaken my thread - I don't mind!!!

I think it depends how well you and your exp get on. Is their still any level of good feeling between you? If you're both at each others throats, then I don't really think mediation could work, but if you will both be able to sit down and try and come to a compromise it could be very helpful.

UH and I have no good feeling between us and no trust, so mediation has a snowball's chance in hell of working but I've got no choice so have to do it anyway.

we have some sort of okay level between us but he usually drives me up the wall. i usually have to grit my teeth to not go mad at him. i was thinking of mediation as theres a third person there that cant be biased IYKWIM

Yep - I know what you mean - so that you know you've got at least one other person in the room who's sane!!!