Hey all,
To give a brief backstory. I was with DS dad for many years though he was emotionally, physical and sexually abusive and I finally ended the relationship in January.
DS dad hasn't seen DS since June, DS dad's mum told me that the dad "will see his son after he has settled down, has his own flat" (he currently lives in shared accommodation). His pretty useless..doesn't financially support DS too but have made a claim to CM. Any who, DS dad only calls DS on special occasions--birthdays, Christmas.
So today DS dad calls me to speak to DS, which he did briefly and then DS passed the phone to me, DS has a severe language disorder so cannot really sustain conversations or understand, so usually I speak to DS dad after DS had finished incase the dad wants to tell me something in relation to DS or to check if he has understood him.
Back to the point, when DS handed the phone back to me, DS angrily said on the phone " I don't want to talk to you! Put the phone back to DS". I was a bit taken aback but I didn't say anything and handed the phone back to DS, after DS said Hi again etc he kinda nudged me and handed the phone back to me again.(meaning he wanted to get off the phone as he was busy playing with his new toys). I then took the phone and told DS dad " Was that all you wanted to say to DS, ok his gonna go now". Then DS dad angrily snapped back and said "I wanted to tell DS something! I don't want to talk to you for Fucks sake! Put the phone back to him now!". I then told him "to not speak to me in that way" and he said "I don't fucking care, who are you!".
I just hanged up.
He called again, DS answered this time and the dad hanged up.
I'm now feeling a little bit down as somehow I should of handled this better. But for many years DS dad would talk to me like shit and I don't want to keep on putting up with it. At the same time, I want to keep amicable for DS sake.
AIBU? Should I have handled things better?