Husband just hit our daughter.

[AP168]

He won't leave.

I have to agree that a lot of these responses are surprising given that we dont actually know what happened.

Calling the police is not appropriate for a light smack on the bottom through clothing for example. Nor is leaving with keys, DD and hiding out or kicking out the DH. It is a difference in opinion on discipline but it would not be considered assault.

Only the OP knows what sort of "hit" it was.

The OP needs to give more information. It's not illegal to smack a child (I'm not condoning it - just pointing out a fact), so no one can give her the right advice until she's clarified what happened.

have reported this as am concerned about op and the response to it.

Me too pip

What do you mean by hit, and hold is she!
A slap to a 13 years old and to a baby are quite the same thing.

• HOW OLD not hold. Stupid phone.

I agree more information is definitely needed about exactly what happened.

My breakthrough came when my mum admitted to a friend that Dad had hit me. I was 16. He had been beating me and bullying me by then for at least 10 years.

Agree again, hard to give advice when you don't know any circumstances or details.

I hope OP returns with a little more information so we can give more appropriate and specific advice to her situation.

Hi folks. Thanks for your reports on this thread. OP - we do hope you are alright. If you have any concerns for your safety, or your daughter's, we would urge you to call the police, as other posters have suggested. We hope your situation is not as severe as some posters have feared. Please do pop back and let us know that all is ok when you get the chance.

head sticking over the parapet, not convinced about this, either this is a wind up [hope so], op was posted in heat of the moment and now it has been resolved or op is in trouble of some sort. hope mnhq gets involved either way.

thanks mnhq

What do you mean, OP? Hit her as in actually HIT her or are we talking a slap on the buttock/leg?

Please give more details, folks are getting worried for you .

I hope everyone is ok and have taken steps to stay safe.

Has it occurred to anyone op might have more important things to deal with than updating us?

annie and rebel what are you saying are your radars pinging ? it does seem strange though. it's possible that dd was smacked [not on] but op posted as a knee jerk, lovely mners have gotten concerned [quite rightly so] but now op has sorted it out and feels awkward about coming back.
op, please let us know one way or the other, don't worry, we won't bite.

You've told the OP to leave and you're now complaining that she isn't giving you minute by minute updates on what's happening? Maybe she's too busy following your advice?

unless yes op might have more important things to do than up date but the nature of mn is that most of us are caring peeps and we want to help and support each other, this is someone's life, we know that, it's not a soap opera.

Get over yourselves ffs.

OP if you are concerned about your child's safety, then leave. Don't wait for him to go. Leave and get help.

I've smacked my kids in the past. I didn't "leave" either. There seems a lot of hysteria to minimal information here.

Kids were hit all the time when I was a child. The police would have been very annoyed at being called out every time. Not enough info. about this incident.