I have been in a relationship with DP for just over 5 years we have a 5 month old DS. From my point of view this year had been amazing (birth of DS) but also very difficult ( DP dad died we have both had problems at work). We haven't been getting on for the year but it seems to have got worse and worse. I've pretty much daily felt ignored by DP, and if I try to ask more than one sentence when he gets home he looks at me like I'm an idiot or sighs. I know he works hard so day to day I don't ask him to do anything. But he won't even do specific jobs I've asked on a day off, for six weeks I asked him to put a piece of DS furniture together he hasn't.
A week tomorrow we had the same old argument about him ignoring me, me feeling unloved and unhappy, dp, looked at me like I was something on the bottom of his shoe when I asked about his day. I suggested in anger I should stay at my mums and he agreed. So I've been at my mums since then. We had NC in over the first 24 hours he eventually sent a text but that was after my DSD text asking my him not to ignore me, in the days since I've had about another handful. Our only face to face contact was two days ago, he asked me and DS to go home, I suggested that we needed to look at how we were both going to do things differently and what he needed. He asked for two days a week and off so he could go out or play games. No mention of how to improve things between us, even though I acknowledged I had not prioritised him and that my parents agreed to babysit once a week so we could spend time together. He also acknowledged he wasn't ' thrilled' about me being pregnant and hasn't seen his DS since I left and hasn't asked about him. When I asked how we will manage when I go back to work for thirty hours a week, he said it will be chaos, no suggestion of how to step up and help. For over an hour I asked him several times what he might offer back if he gets his nights off, I was clear I just want him to talk to me as I feel lonely and spend time with his son. I also asked for some help with housework on my days at work. Last night I left things suggesting that we both thought about what the other had said. Last night I got a text saying his year had been hard and so was work and finally acknowledging that he hasn't been helping or very nice to me. I replied acknowledging he has had a tough year and that I hoped he'd get a job that made him happy in the new year, I again asked what he thought he could do differently. It's now 24 hours nearly, no reply, no asking no how his son is, no arranging to see him (which I suggested!). I love him but don't like him at the mo. Do I go back and give this ago as he has asked or should I call it a day?