Not sure how I feel about this

[Workitbabe]

DP moved in 2 years ago with his ds1 who is now 21.
DP is now looking at a new job which potentially means he will be away Monday to Friday, and I am not sure how I feel about his ds1 being here and being my responsibility. I know you are thinking " he is an adult" but I would still feel responsible.

What do others think?

I get what you mean. Can't he moved in with his mum? Did he consult with you?

Does the son not have a job?could you encourage him to get a job to get him out of the house a bit so you don't feel so uncomfortable?

I wouldn't consider a person who is 21 your responsibility. He's a grown man who's responsible for himself. I don't see the problem.

Tricky. We need more details though. Is he working, at uni? Is his mum around? Short term, longer term plans? I wouldn't be comfortable with that.

I really don't see how you can ask him to leave when you allowed him to move in two years ago, he will perceive that as his home, as will your partner, who even if away during the week will see it as his home. However it seems from your text,you view it as your home and they live with you.🙄

Sorry, I think it's mean to say well if uoure not here your son can sod off as I don't want the responsibility.

Hi thanks for the replies. DP has spoken to me about the job and we have said it needs to work for us but at the same time I don't want to hold him back.

DSS1 works locally so it would just be the evenings.

I am sure it will be ok; I just find him hard work.