Am I being silly?

[jellybabe83]

I've been with my partner for a few months now and we both have children from revious relationships. Things are starting to get pretty serious and we'll be moving in very soon.
A few weeks ago, we were chatting about our pasts and he brought up the fact that he had a relationship with his neighbour before we met. They were sleeping together and she is married. He called it off after a few weeks, but they're still living in the house next door.
It's not really any of my business as this all happened before we even met, but I can't help feeling upset/ill/worried every time I think about it... They're only in the house for another six months approx, but it's really getting to me...
He knows it's upsetting me, but I don't think he realises how much.. but then there's not much that can really be done is there?
Sorry to go on, but I needed to speak to someone....
xx

I can see why your upset about it.
Was he single at the time?
Its good that he was the one that called it off, but it doesn't sit well that he was prepared to sleep with a married neighbour.
Why did he call it off?
Is he friendly with them or speak to them on a regular basis still?
TBH if its upsetting you this much, I wouldnt move in until they had left.

Thanks for the reply
Yes, he was single at the time...
As far as I know, he called it off because it couldn't go anywhere, and it was just a fling for both of them. She was upset as her husband had cheated on her, or something along those lines.
He doesn't speak to her anymore, but I do still see her as she's just next door. I'm not sure she even knows that I know...
I am tempted to say to wait until they've left, but he's so excited about us moving in and I do want to, this is the only thing putting me off....
xx

Don't know what to say but that would realy get to me too.

It sounds like he has put it behind him if he does not speak to her now.
I would have been concerned if he was still 'friends'.
You know what's right for you and if this guy is, then don't let this come between you, like you say, they will be moving out soon anyway. Just keep your contact with her minimal, im sure you two lovebirds will be too busy to bother with the neighbours anyway

Are you more worried about the fact that she's still around or the fact that he slept with a married woman? I think it's safe to assume that your moving in will draw a line under it for both her and him - can you pretend he hasn't told you or that she's a different neighbour in order to keep your chin up?