When a FWB relationship goes wrong

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I'm afraid it has happened to me. We've been friends for many years now and when my marriage ended we became more.

He has never promised me anything and I never wanted anything more serious with him. But now he has met someone else and I'm shocked by how upset I feel. I have two children, don't want more and he doesn't have any and wants some.

Also, having spent so much time with him I know we could never live with him. But I do really miss him. He openly admits that he can never see a time when we won't be the very best of friends.

I'm so upset. I should never have allowed things to go on for so long and I know that I have developed feelings I should never have done.

Ironically I have also met someone else and my sensible side knows I should say goodbye to my FWB and not look back. But I shall miss him so much.

I've blocked his phone number and hidden him on social media and I have bagged up his things. . I feel really stupid. Part of me hoped that he would come running back to me to declare undying love, even though we are completely wrong for each other.

Indulge me in my madness. He got me through my divorce and the aftermath and now I feel alone for the first time. I feel so bloody stupid.

We've known each other since we were at school and did have a relationship in our 20s. When we got together after my marriage ended it was genuinely as friends; we've always had a very strong connection and we both needed support. . I never intended there to be a sexual relationship. That just happened.

I'm sure you are right about not grieving the end of my marriage. I can't reveal the details without outing myself to real life friends but something very tragic happened to my ex husband recently. It did make me realise that perhaps I haven't recovered sufficiently.

I've read back over my posts and am surprised at how they read. I'm actually very strong and independent. I am solely responsible, financially and in every other way, for my children. I have a very demanding career. It's really only in relationships where I fail miserably. I'm not looking for love as such or a relationship. I just like the companionship of male friends. I have plenty of female friends.