If you were the OW did you tell his wife and if so, why?

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I ask because my best friend in the entire universe received a phone call today saying her husband had been cheating for over a year.

It's been a week and nothing has been heard from OW either to my friend or my friend's husband, so it's not as if she is seeking to be with him... would you say there is truth in it?

That should say 'a week ago today'!!

What does she think?

She hasn't told him!! But has been checking his phone and can't find anything.

She's gone a week without talking to him about it?

For what it's worth, I think there's no smok without fire. He's a most unlikely candidate though.. I would never have thought he would.

Yes she wants to find evidence before he can cover his tracks

It sounds like she thinks he's cheating. If she doesn't trust him, she doesn't need evidence-their relationship is essentially dead.

No idea about what's going on with your friend but...yes. I didn't know that I was an 'OW' and when I found out I found his wife on FB and told her.

Partly because I would want to know in the same circumstances and partly because I thought he should have to face the consequences of his actions.

Did they have a family and what happened? There's 3 kids involved here

My guess if there's been no contact with the husband, is that he's ended the affair, and she's contacted the wife either for revenge, or in an attempt to get him back.

Someone who I know who was an OW told the wife in the hope that the wife would end the relationship and the DH would go to the OW. It didn't work and (I think) the DH and wife are still together.

Yes, is sau its most likely true.

I would imagine she's told the wife in the hope that the wife will kick him out so the OW can win her prize.

Or the husband has ended the affair, so she's told for the same reason I said above.

Bet OW hasn't told the H that she's grassed him up.

OW might have told her husband she's let on and he's well aware, no?

The OW told me by when H ended it with her. She did it out of revenge towards him

Is this you OP?
You have 2 threads about this now and I'm not understanding why you seem so invested

It's not always true. There can be smoke without a fire.
My dh heard pub gossip that I was shagging a friend of ours. Not a shred of truth in it.

OP, this is a really odd thread. It's jangling and doesn't ring true somehow. Are you sure about the facts you've stated?