1st year of separation

[reallifesucks]

I've been separated nearly a year now and suddenly finding it really hard, was coping really well and now boom. I really miss him and the way we were pre children. But I know we aren't good together with real life responsibilities, so why am I pining for back then now?

I suppose we've been through a shit number of years that totally broke down our marriage and how we responded to each other and to life, and life is starting to get back on the up again.....

At what stage can I 'get over' him and move on, how do you move on? I've done some counselling since we split, but i'm a fairly poor communicator myself so tend to bottle things up? I keep myself busy and have things booked tomlook forward to.I generally don't feel too low or lonely except today i cant stop crying....

join the club, i took my boy to nursery then ive done nothing but cry and sob. my breakup has only been 6ish weeks, all i leep thinking about os good times, thinking about events etc and my stomach turns. i would love a cure to this!

It's shit isn't it. And all the Xmas happy family Shite is all around

Exactly happy family Christmas, everyone sat round their tree n watching Xmas films. I can't wait for it all to be over but want to see my boys little face light up

I think Christmas does make it worse.I'm not sure anyone separatea without good cause so it's easy sometimes to look back at the good times.
You have to remember that if you were in the relationship you might still be crying and upset.That's what I have to focus on, I cried lots when we were together.

Think of this time as healing and the new year is an opportunity to put in plans for your future.

A year is not a long time to grieve especially if you were together a long time.I recall my first break up and it felt like 2 years before I started to feel constantly better.

I've been trying to look for old videos and messages when we were arguing and remember how bad he made me feel

Although I instigated my divorce, I found the first Xmas apart tough.

6 years on & I promise you, it does get easier, year on year

That's it, we were miserable together, this time last year I was a mess....... need to remember the bad times! Doesn't help that he is a millions time better father now that we are apart.... separation clearly agrees with him.

2017 will be a great year - positive thinking.

I got Christmas cards addressed to my maiden time today , which makes me feel weird. It was such a big deal for me to take his name , my kids are his name...... ahhh what am I !?!