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AGlassOfRedForMe · 13/12/2016 22:35

Hi everyone I'm new mumsnet as I thought someone may be able to help me with my problem, recently my husband has been asking me if I could be more 'adventurous' in the bedroom, I really want to be more adventurous but In my last relationship me and my pattern used to engage in bondage but one night of this activity I really hurt myself and tore a ligament and since then I have been worried about doing it again as it was easily one of the most painful things I've ever experienced, how can I restart this with my now husband and discuss safety with him ? Any help appreciated

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Cricrichan · 13/12/2016 23:26

There are adventurous things you can do that don't hurt? Discuss with him what you'd both like/be happy with.

TempusEedjit · 13/12/2016 23:27

If your husband is comfortable enough with you to ask you to be more adventurous then surely you can be comfortable enough with him to have an honest discussion about what you do or don't want to do?

AdoraBell · 13/12/2016 23:34

Maybe he doesn't mean bondage when he says "adventures" ?

Talk to him.

TheNaze73 · 14/12/2016 07:41

I think you need him to be more specific. Adventurous doesn't mean bondage, it could mean anything.
It's nice to hear that he feels secure & happy with you, enough to bring it up.

Aedh · 14/12/2016 17:21

Sometimes we leave the light on. Edgy, eh?

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